i have neve had an orgasam how can i get to that point. i have been married for 6 years and not once has it happend. i dont want to use any toys or anything like that.i have tried all kinds of sexual positions with no result. when i met my husband i was a vergin he is the first man i fell in love with and my first kiss my first every thing.is it my lack of experiences. i really want get their. when hes done im left wanting more.we have talked about and he tries so hard and i dont want him to think something is wrong with him. does any one have any ideas.im also allways horny.
2006-07-22 08:16:56 · 12 answers · asked by jannygril31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its hard i know!
but vaginally over 70% of women cant have an orgams during sex...UNLESS they mess with their clitoris...have u ever tried that? thats what i have to do, i cant get an orgasm vaginally..
also, talk to your doctor about sexual hormone boosters..i hear those help really well..
2006-07-22 08:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Moe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Janny girl this is an easy one,first you ned to let your husband know that you need more oral and for a longer time period. But if he gets bored then try doing the 69 position so you both get the fulfillment. 2nd try licking/sucking your own chest while he is down south.3rd. While he is down south tell him to place a finger or two in your an-l area,while still stimulating your clit with his tongue and fingers gently rolling over your clit at the same time. If that does not bring you to your ultimate. Then you shoul try laying on your stomach while he comes at you from the back, and you move with him, all while he spreads your legs apart and he is in you he places his hands under yourstomach going to your vaginal area and spreads your lips apart he stimulates your clit that way all while in motion. This is a great feeling. 4th. Maybe you should be on top for a change and straddle him this should stimulate the clit if not while straddling him play with it until you do. But let him know you need more about 30min. of foreplay then get into position and go for what is yours. These should get you quite a few at least your first. BUt remember you need to be relaxed and not think about reaching it.You 'll know when it's coming cause you will start feeling really hot and your ears will start to get even hotter and your vaginal area will flow for days you may want him to keep going.
I hope this gets you there. Good Luck and enjoy.
2006-07-22 15:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oral is the easiest way for a man to get a woman to that point. if im not mistaken you both feel like there is somthing wrong with yourselves. he is emasculated for not being able to sustain long enough and your thinking your ... body is broken in that dept there is medications you can get from your doctor that will help you achieve climax faster also study your diet before you go to the doctors to help him diagnose quicker limit your intake of nicotene and caffene as they eefect your sex life as well as does sleeping enough. my wife is the same way with being hard to climax i can help more when she and i engage in oral as well as i aid her in self masturbation not to sound too personal he can stimulate your breast while you do it then once your done you are more sensitive and can climax faster the next time. as far as toys in the bedroom, you two are married and should explore togther what the joy of being married is about. go and blush at an adult store you two are married and if there is one thing you can share with each other, its the playfullness and inhabitions in the bedroom. if you dont now you will eventually look back and wonder why it took you two so long to enjoy playing . the older a couple gets the more adventurist they become so long as its you and him the bedroom is suppose to be exciting stimulating and a non stop party lol good luck
btw congrats your an awsome role model .... you waited on your husband. that was the greatest gift you could have given him i hope he realizes it and cherishes it.
2006-07-22 15:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 distinct areas that produce orgasm in the female body. Clitoris, vagina, and anus. Many women have difficulty orgasming with stimulation to only one area. You could try stimulating your clit while your husband is penetrating you. There are also many gels and lotions that can increase your sensitivity and make Orgasm much easier to reach. Try a product such as Liquid V or Cleopatra's Secret to help increase the sensitivity of your clitoris. You said you don't want to use toys but a simple bullet used during sex with your husband can help you reach orgasm. Also try to tighten and release your muscles in your vagina while he is penetrating you. Think of it as trying to pull him deeper...this can help increase the pleasure for both of you.
2006-07-22 15:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by arcticheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know about what you have never felt. I would suggest getting over the mental issue about toys and get your first couple orgasms behind you. It will get easier once you have a point of reference. If your husband helps you with the toys...all the better.
2006-07-22 15:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you orgasm if you masterbate? If you can, and feel comfortable doing it in front of your husband,try it. Believe me....he will find it a major turn on and probably not feel as threatened by this as opposed to a dildo,vibtator...etc. Be comfortable with yourself and sex. Go for the gold!
2006-07-22 15:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bolder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him by hand then wake him up and tell him to go to town and you take over . Take charge and make his butt stay up. .I can not have sex with my wife unless I know she will have an orgasm or two even three.drives me crazy when she has one.
I wish you the best of luck trying.
2006-07-22 15:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by plumbman_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lot of fore play before...By the time you start getting in to it he is finished his business...You need to relax and unwind must have a high stress job...He can get you worked up before he gets started..Or if he is a fast shooter tell him to slow down a little...
2006-07-22 15:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try stimulating yourself with a free hand while cuddling with your husband either during or after intercourse.
2006-07-22 15:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by tired_of_yahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years and not one orgasm... I don't know try oral sex...i don't like having sex if I don't CLIMAX its pointless to me...every single time I have sex with my husband he makes me orgasm...try oral or something
2006-07-22 15:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋