Ok me and my husband are newlyweds but we have been together for over 3 years now. we are still very affectionate and we cuttle alot but we havent had sex for more than a month, what is the problem!?!?
2006-07-22 08:12:56 · 36 answers · asked by cindy k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes not cheating hes always home with me we are still both in love alot
2006-07-22 08:15:30 · update #1
is hea cheating?
2006-07-22 08:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels pressured for sex. Let up on him. Or maybe hes tired from working hard or whatever. But for a month, that could be a warning sign. He could be cheating, where does he work? Many affairs start at work, but the guy comes home everynight. Its a little afternoon delight. Have a talk with him, but don't accuse him of anything. It may be a simple thing or not. Then start investigating for clues. check cell phone calls, pieces of paper in his pocket, etc.etc. If he is cheating you can find out. If he is not, then you need to know whats going on.
2006-07-22 08:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
newsflash for a newlywed: being married does not mean things will always be perfect. Marriage isnt about feeling butterflies in your stomach and having great sex all the time. Its about sharing your life with someone. Even when its tough. Love does not conquer all. It takes strength, patience, understanding, forgivness, sacrifice... You can love someone but it means nothing if you cop out on them when things get rough. Got a problem? Talk about it with HIM! He may have some issues hes afraid to talk about, so just let him know you are there for him and not going to leave him over sex. You need to be open with him about your concerns, but not force him to talk about it.
2006-07-22 08:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many things can be a factor in a lack of sex. Has there been a big change, besides the wedding? Congrats! Have you talked to him about your concern? No one will help you more to understand what is wrong or not wrong than your husband. Make a nice meal, a lunch or a picnic. Sit down with him, look at eachother and talk like you just met.
2006-07-22 09:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by caninesuds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this may be of help, but I know after I got married my (now ex) quit wearing nice cloths and wearing makeup. It wasn't long before I lost interest seeing her in sweats all the time, no makeup and her hair never done up. Definately not appealing. She talked to a friend about the same problem you're having and her friend asked her why she never dressed up anymore. Her answer was "He's my husband now, I don't have to." WRONG ANSWER!
Husbands and wives should still dress up for each other, do all the nice little things they did before they were married. After her friend told her what was happening, she started dressing up, wearing makeup and doing her hair again. We were back in a bed REAL FAST!.
2006-07-22 08:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a communication problem between you two, which is a lot of problems of newly weds. if you want to have sex, just let him know. What about your schedules? If either one of you works a lot, maybe you're just too tired for it and need to take time off for each other. If he is uncomfortable about himself, this can also drive down his sex drive. Let him know how great he is. It may also be medical issues with him, so maybe he should see a doctor but that would be hard for you to know he would have to seek help himself about that. I wish you the best in resolving this! Just keep the lines of communication open.
2006-07-22 08:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by muslimah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important in a marriage relationship, but the most important thing is to be affectionate, loving ,romantic without really getting into the sex thing.the problem is that people tend to think that sex means everything, and without sex its either i am not loved, cheating or something else. there is joy in emotional interaction,the silent affection,touching and just talking with your wife/husband the joy to be consummated in a loving healthy sexual relationship
2006-07-22 09:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been together for 3 years and you are not having sex at every possible opportunity?! It sounds to me like he likes you but that he's not that into you. Do you want to go the rest of your life jogging along with a man who doesn't feel passion for you? I wouldn't!
2006-07-22 11:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of couples go through dry spells. my husband and i have been together 12 years and while we were dating, and even now that we are married....once in a great while each of us just doesn't have the urge. we always get it back, but it happens. i think it's completely normal. by the way, if it helps any we are still young, both of us are 27.
2006-07-22 08:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him? IF there isn't a big emotional charge on it (as in, "Hey, what's your problem, can't you get it up? or, "No, leave me alone, can't you see I'm busy?" if he approaches you at the wrong time?), he's very likely able to tell you. Remember also, marriage is a two way street, what's sauce for the goose is also sauce for the gander and vice versa. (The goose can seduce the gander as well as vice versa.)
2006-07-22 08:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be He is getting a complex because of not meeting your needs. Often men shy away from sex because they feel inadequate. There could be pressure with his career or the pressure of bills may be getting to him. Talking with him is the best answer you can get. Only he knows why.
2006-07-22 08:19:34 · answer #11 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋