Here's a question for everyone. Who here has been single their whole life and any thoughts on it.?

Question

I have been single for basicallly 19 years and so far it is pretty good overall. I feel that as an individual Im independent, but its funny how there are times when you are like oh man it sucks why am I single. I find it pretty interesting also at how some people seem to be shocked to hear i have been single for 19 years. Yes I am 19. So then does anyone have things to say on this subject?

I have been single for basicallly 19 years and so far it is pretty good overall. I feel that as an individual Im independent, but its funny how there are times when you are like oh man it sucks why am I single. I find it pretty interesting also at how some people seem to be shocked to hear i have been single for 19 years. Yes I am 19. So then does anyone have things to say on this subject? Also anyone got some advice or stories on how they stopped being single? I think this might be helpful for some people so why not put it up here. And yes Im a College Student and enjoying it.

I am talking about basically any type of relationship. Yes I havent been in any even dating. I wonder who else is like that.

Answer 1

I was single until I was 6yrs. old.
Everyone has little boyfriends and girlfriends along the way.
My 6yr. old son has a girl he has a huge crush on that he calls his girlfriend. You never had that ? And your 19 ? That is shocking !
Marriage or a serious relationship is different. That's not shocking.
I have a friend that is 25 and never been in a serious relationship.

Answer 2

I believe that it is perfectly normal to be 19 and single. There are many people who choose until later in their life to have relationships, for many different reasons. If you are choosing to be single because you enjoy the independence that you have and the freedom it gives you to pursue the opportunities that life presents you, then that is an excellent choice. But if you are lonely and interested in having a relationship (as in those times, maybe, when you think it sucks to be single, no matter how brief), and find that you hold back either because you don't know how, or are afraid to enter one for some reason, it's a good idea to open up to someone about how you feel. It's natural to feel nervous about relationships and getting involved with another person. Talking to people who've got some experience might help. And then you can decide from there. Either way, single orattached, it's up to you. Some people choose to remain single their whole lives, and that's one choice among many, and it's totally cool if you want to do it.

Answer 3

I am 46 and have been single always. I am not the average guy in that regard. I have dated rarely even when I was in high school because I alway thought that I did not want to get involved in a relationship unless I was serious about marriage. I have not wanted to have children because I am always busy in pursuing what interests me. Perhaps I lack the patience to be someone to raise a family. When I'm in a store and some little kid starts yelling his head off, I'm glad I have peace and quite in my life. I don't feel I need anyone to make me whole and if anyone feels that way its probably not a good thing. I may still get married but if I don't its ok. Being single for all your life is a gift for only a few and I probably have that gift. Attactiveness is always desireable in a potential mate but besides that the older I become the more I think it would be nice to have someone with whom I can share common interests with since I have narrowed those down at my age.You are very young still so don't worry about following the crowd in the relationship scene. It is sad to me when I run into other guys who are married and tell me things like, "your lucky your not married" it seems to me they aren't too happy in their marriage. I am also a Christian believer and that also is a major consideration for me to enter a relationship. In many cases it is financially harder to be single also. The thing I would tell you is
become the man you would want your children to look up to if you ever have any and always respect a woman. On a lighter note: its too bad when your single and you can't use the 2 for 1 coupons at a resturant.

Answer 4

I'm 19 and have never been in an actual "relationship". I've dated but nothing serious. It really bothered me for a while but then I figured, I have so many others things I can spend my time doing instead of thinking "oh, woe is me!" I'm actually really thankful now that I've had the time to really come into myself as a person. Would I like a relationship? Yes. But does being single lower my value as a person? Heck no!

Answer 5

Okay, I'm 61 years old and never been married. I LOVE IT ! ! ! Of course, I never wanted children which made my decision easier. Also, I'm quite intelligent (yes, a member of MENSA) so was able, through scholarships and hard work, to get a college education and make my own way in life.

I'm not gay. I've had relationships, but I was one of the very few lucky women who KNEW what she wanted, and being married or a mother was not anything I ever envisioned for myself.

Being single at 19 is at least a step in the right direction. In this day and age (as opposed to when I was growing up) choosing an unattached lifestyle is quite socially acceptable. But choosing to marry, and to have children, is certainly a viable option as well. Just choose your mate well and work very hard at keeping your marriage viable, for your sake and your children's. Don't rush into something just so you won't be alone.

Answer 6

So what if you are single for 19 years, is nothing, you are young,you just start to live. Be single 32 years and then i will ask you how you feel boy.
I have a cousen he was single 28 years and now finely he find girl and i hope she will be good and that she is good person,because he is so good person.
I will just say19 years man you just start to live , so dont go with your age.
well i wish you all best and lot happy life and 1 day you will find a girl and you be happy much. Avry1 need to be with some1, so 1 day will come some girl in your life and you will be no more single, but happy boy.
Is sad thing that some people can not find a partner for them, is so sad, but i wish all people to have some1 and to be happy and to love life and animals and people.So many good people are sinlge and they sufer, because of singles, is not good that, is vary lounly, and they can't find no1, but you have so much evil people and they have so much partners in them life. This is not fer, is no good.
So i wish you all best and happy life and all best for good people and for evil people i wish to be more good.
And stay single as long you can be, have lot good friends and have fun fu fun.
and 1 day you will love some1

:)

Answer 7

Of course, you should never get married unless you really love the person and really believe that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. All my friends that are going through bitter, painful divorces say I did the right thing by never getting married. But of course, being single means waking up alone most nights. Everything is a trade off. Whatever choices you make, you'll find you're just exchanging one set of problems for another.

Answer 8

Single and "single" are two different things. If you're single then it's necessary to become in touch with yourself (not in a nasty way :-p). If you're "single" that just means you probably have commitment issues. Guys like this usually (not always) tend to lie about whether or not they really want to be with her. Most girls (not all) need the promise or expect the attention from a guy they like to lead up to a relationship.

Answer 9

Single as in never married or single as in never been in a relationship? I've never married and have absolutely no intentions of ever doing so because i feel it's an antiquated custom that is completely irrelevant in this day and age.However, I do have a boyfriend because he's a great person and the sex is incredible.But that's just about it.

Answer 10

17 years. I don't know, it's not like it just didn't happen to meet the right person, there were some, but something keeps me away from men. I think that that something is me, because every time I fall in love I manage to fall "out", just because I can control myself very well. so I never "go for it", like other girls, but I kill any feelings I have for the guy. maybe I just didn't really love, you know. i think that there is no point in dating with someone just because all your friends do so. I'll wait for the big love, and I won't think about me being 17 and not dating.
I suggest everyone to do so! :)