I have a best friend anmed Natasha who is like the most important person I LOVE in my LIFE. We have been best friends ever since the 7th grade. She has boyfreind who she has been dating for 7 months. Every I want hang out with her, she always with her boyfreinds. It's like I'm not in the picture anymore. Every since she been going with this boy, she never has time to hang out with anymore because she always at his house every time I call her.She drives all the way out to LaGrange, Georgia to see him, but she drive right around the corner to see me anymore. We have always made a promise to never let a boy come between our relationship, but she has broken the pomise, it seem like it to me she has. I'm scared when graduated from high school(2007) she will want nothing to do with anymore.I understand she wants to spemnd time with her boyfirend, but she has remember that I'm her best firend. I don't won't to tell her how I feel because I don't end up wanting her to stop talking me. Help me!
2006-07-22 07:21:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
u know its kinda funny cuz im in the same situation except im the one w/ the bf...wat i can tell u for sure is that she still loves u, she hasnt forgotten u, but u have to understand that u cant offer her wat a guy offers her, she still needs u trust me, so just hang on, but make sure to let her know how u feel, but dont attack her! well i think thats all i can tell u...goodluck!
2006-07-22 07:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As is shes not talking to you any ways. Request that you talk to HER in private, tell her how you feel, ask her if a least 1 day out of the week is possiable for you girls just to hang out. Let her know that your really missing you time together and remind her of her promise and that you feel pushed to the side. That you like the b/f (if you do) but you also NEED girl time with her ALONE.
If she really is a great friend she will understand what your saying. And pick up what your putting down. Other wise it was ment to be and when things dont work out with the b/f whos gonna be there not you. She wasn't there for you when you needed her.
2006-07-22 14:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by JaidenLucas Kody H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sooo normal. When you have a new love, they can give you things that a best pal can not...kissing etc etc. *I mean they CAN but you know what I mean. So she knows you are there, always have been. She is full into this guy, cementing and testing out the relationship, enjoying it fully. I'd tell her "I'm here when you are ready to hang out. Maybe you could schedule some time for just us when bf is at work?" It's so normal. Its tough on you but she is in love!!
2006-07-22 14:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel you are being pushed aside. Don't be the one to break contact. She's never home - OK call and leave her a message telling her how she missed going to the mall with you. Tell what you are doing. So she doesn't return the calls. That is OK too. Keep your door open and when she gets dumped or she dumps him, she will call hoping you are still her friend.
2006-07-22 14:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by sally_little03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that friendship isn't measured by the amount of time that you spend together. So this doesn't mean that she has forgotten you as her best friend.
Also, she might be undergoing a different phase of her life, and for her, it would be more important for her to "celebrate" that phase with somebody.
Either way, give her some space for the mean time.
2006-07-22 14:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by pizzicato_1023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do not know how to be a best friend. You should be pleased for her and happy when you do get together.
I have to assume you do not have a magical boyfiend and do not understand the attraction she has.
Best friends are tolerant and happy for their friends not jealous and possessive. Get a handle on your feelings and adapt and you will keep your best friend through life. Fail and remain possessive and you will loose her!!!!
2006-07-22 14:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that she is your best friend and you understand she has a boyfriend but that you miss her and need to see her also. Ask if she would consider setting one or two days of the week for girl time. If she is your best friend she will understand
2006-07-22 14:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jody F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get a girl to not immerse herself in a boy?
lol - good luck with that!
You will be 20, 30, and 40...and still have girl friends who do that.
The only thing you can do is learn from this, and don't do it to your friends when you get a bf.
2006-07-22 14:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan ahead of time like a week before. And go somewhere. And if she wants to cancel it to hang out with her friends tell her that we havent hanged out in along time. or just come out and tell her!!
2006-07-22 14:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Cars~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the story, lsn carfully to me ur friend is a teensger so its v,normal to da that this time, she is havin' boyfriend whicle is consedre to be better that u in the emotionale site, so u have to waitin' for her,,,,she willl come and say SORRY one day..........hey u r her Best friend......and if u didnt found sense of what im sayin' then go and talk to her about that,
best wishes
2006-07-22 15:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by LANA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋