Should I stay with my boyfriend?

Question

I'm living with him and he says that he likes me but it doesn't feel like it. He's a very isolated person emotionally especially since his dad died a few years ago but when I talk to him about feeling like he doesn't like me he says he does and gives me lots of attention and kisses.
Am I being attention seeking or is he taking me for granted?

Answer 1

Men struggle to convey their emotions.we women are different.He is not taking you for granted he truly loves you,but is a bit withdrawn,I know I am like that too.Ive had death in the family,its hard to open up.Its fear that we are going to lose someone we love again.laying ourselves bare leaves us vulnerable,so we close up.he loves you,trust me,give him extra love and tlc.lol

Answer 2

Perhaps you should give him an ultimatum. At the end of the day you're obviously unhappy with the way things are and how is any relationship to work if one partner is feeling unwanted? Not feeling liked or loved by someone you care for very much can lead to an uncontrolable spiral downhill - believe me, I know. So, say to your boyfriend how you feel again but this time add that if things don't change then you're considering leaving him as you're fed-up with being upset. There's no need to be harsh, just speak plainly. See what he says and does, you never know, he might not have fully appreciated what you were saying before.
A death in the family is difficult, again, I know, but you said that was a few years ago and although I don't believe time heals (more, it's allows you to adjust to facts), I do believe in both partners putting equal effort into a relationship.
If nothing changes however, then my advice is to leave him. A horrible choice to have to make but you can't spend the rest of your time being miserable when there's a whole world to enjoy. A similar thing has happened to me, I was madly head-over-heals in love with my ex, but he used me and didn't respect who I was. When the relationship came to an end, I thought I would probably die of a broken heart, I felt so empty all of a sudden. The thought of other guys made me feel like I was cheating on my ex! However, you will recover and find someone who will treat you like a princess. Don't expect this straight away, give it time - and yourself time.
Well, hope I've helped, if you want to contact me; please do.

Answer 3

Hi!
My impression is that, if you have to ask a question like this online, you probably are the one that does not want to be in this relationship.
Maybe he loves you... but is just not the love you want or the loving you are looking for. If you do not feel comfortable, if you feel like you say you do, it sounds like you are not very happy.
Now, what I tell you is this: ask yourself if this has always been the case with him or if it just a new thing. You don't mention how long have you two been together.
About his father, I'd say that but if your bf is down because of this (deaths tend to inspire people to change or analize their lifes) you should give him a break and give the situation a little while to develop... but its been two years. I guess that's who he is, how he is.
If you feel so unsure and insecure, and have been feeling this way for some time now, I don't think that's a great way of sharing your life with someone. It doesn't mean you don't love him or that you don't care for him... but maybe, love-wise is not just what you want or wish to have.

Goodluck!

Answer 4

Without trying to sound rude, and only going on what you have told us,maybe you are being a little bit attention seeking. Maybe he is finding it hard to cope about his fathers death,maybe he is like me and tends to keep his feelings to himself. You say he does give you lots of attention and kisses so im sure he loves you.Try talking to him but dont push him,im sure everything will be fine.

Answer 5

Dont let him use his dads death as an excuse- it has little to do with your relationship. If he only gives you attention when you say you feel unloved, I think you lnow the answer to this already---if he really does love you, he would make sure that you never, ever feel unloved. I should walk away from this- its not going to work, and believe me it will get worse, and not better. You deserve more/

Answer 6

Just sounds like he has other things on his mind, he probably does take you for granted a little bit but you could be being a little over sensitive as well.

Answer 7

i think you need to say to your fella whats the deal because sounds like your getting walked on , however when you loose some one like he lost his dad it can do strange things to you and to be honest 2 years isn't a long time to be grieving it take longer you never get over death it just gets essayer to cope so maybe in time he can loosen up and become a better boyfriend i hope it works out and if you love some one and thay love you things will work out in the end x

Answer 8

I dont think so that he loves u.I think he is playing a game with u.What does he want to exactly say by that he likes u but is not in love with u? If it is so why did he agreed to stay with u?Dont u have ur self-respect?Why u want to stay with a person who doesnt love u but one who is doing timepass with u? U really have to find out what is the truth. I wish u very best of luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Doesn't mean he hate you but the current situation make him feel like emotion. People not always loved each other sometime they fight or argued but it doesn't mean they don't like each other. Don't take anything serious when he was anger with you be calm and concentrate on your work. He will understand as time goes by.

Answer 10

well i think you should give him a chance to try and come around i have been living with my bf for 10 years and he is just the same a times he will come out of the state he is in and other times he wants to be alone well i have compromised and i have accepted him for what he can give emotional give him another chance