2006-07-22 05:15:00 · 26 answers · asked by jo jo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
even though i have evidence, he denies it happened....
2006-07-22 05:21:52 · update #1
he will continue to deny it, I'm living with that situation as we speak,(look at my question) I thought of having an affair too, but I don't want to lose my dignity for him, it's bad enough that I am crying for him, and I dont think he feels all that bad as he claims to be. He deny and deny and deny. Just to tell everybody else that you were the one who left. Would it make you feel better, I dont know, I sometimes think it will, and I have second and third thoughts. It's hard, if you want to talk email me.
2006-07-22 16:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie before you do any thing you better make sure that he cheated on you. Can you imagine what would happen if you went out and cheated on him and then come to find out he didn't cheat on you. I know you said you have evidence ( but you didn't say what kind of evidence that you had). Some evidence don't make the person guilty. Of course, the kind of evidence you have makes the difference. I would just hate for you to do something that you can't fix. If he said that he didn't cheat and you want to stay with him, then dig futher. Look at his caller id on his cell phone, check out the milage in his car, do a suprise visit at his job, if he doesn't come straight home from work ask him where he'll be and go there with out him knowing that you are going to pop up. If it turns out that he is cheating on you then leave him. If he is cheating.....don't play lets get even.....play I'm to good for you, loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Best Wishes to you.
2006-07-22 13:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My then boyfriend now husband cheated on me at a very bad time in my life. I didn't leave him, I just put another more serious problem I had in my life above it. Nevertheless, he got concerned cause his affair DIDN'T SEEM to be destroying me. Guess what. His concern became desperation cause he felt insecure of what I was doing to cope with several bad situations at one time and why he wasn't top on the list. Now, we are married and are living as a family. We don't talk about it at all. I guess he just realized that maybe he needed me more than he thought. Only time will tell.
2006-07-22 12:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u sure it happened in the first place?If he denies,maybe he loves u and doesnt want to lose u.Maybe he is scared if he gets the details of 'affair' to u.
2006-07-22 12:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. If you can't move on in the marriage, get out but having an affair of your own won't solve anything
2006-07-22 12:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you if you cheat. But if you do then you're just doing the same thing he did. Get over it and yourself. Your no beauty queen so of course he's gonna cheat on you, married or not. Even if you were a beauty queen, he'd still cheat. That's what we do. Why do women think that just because they're married that what they have between their legs is going to be enough to satisfy us forever? No one woman can satisfy a man. It would take an army!
2006-07-22 13:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!!! Revenge is never as sweet as the thought of it is. It just ends up burning inside you like an ulcer. The best thing to do is talk to him tell him how you are feeling, But do not reciprocate in his wrong doing . Forgive and forget is my policy, It works . If you spend all your time worrying about the past you'll never be able to function in the present. good luck
2006-07-22 12:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by RM802001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you feel he is truly repentant and won't do it again, you should forgive him. Try to work it out. If he behaves as if its all your fault and seems like he doesn't care, leave him. Do some soul searching for a year or two (church, travel, meet new friends) then get back in the game.
2006-07-22 12:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by danielle_la_flor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would u get out of being even with him????? u only lower ur self to being low life scum, why would u want to do that, right now u have the pride in knowing that you've always been faithful, and id rather be able to look myself in the mirror every day with pride, then lowering myself to his level..
2006-07-22 12:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him - sort it out with a deep frank discussion and then forget it totally. Then move on and repair your marriage to make it strong again - If you can't do that divorce is the kindest thing for both of you
2006-07-22 12:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by TD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋