2nd marriage for me, first wife cheated after 19 yrs, with her boss. 2nd wife and I had a great relationship, but I started accusing of cheating. She goes to these SCA events her horses and with guys and comes home so happy and talks and talks about how much fun she has had. The talks them on the phone and e-mail. She is tired of all the questions and stuff that goes with it.
I work 2 jobs, clean, laundry, cook and what ever she asks me to do. Is it all me? or is something going on behind the scenes?
2006-07-22 05:02:18 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You canNOT accuse someone of cheating, because when you accuse them, they go and do it! Accusations ALWAYS make a person feel like they have the right now to cheat, since they are being accused of it. Yet, it sounds to me like she is a little flirty with some of the guys. WHY DON'T YOU GO WITH HER TO SCA? Check it out with your own eyes before you think the worst. Go on! Go with her! And if she doesn't want you to go, then you two really do have a problem. She should be happy that you are showing an interest in HER interests.
2006-07-22 05:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Why don't you go with her sometimes? See for yourself. You may be imagining something going on since it's happened to you in the past, but then again, because you were cheated on in the past, you are more aware of the changes that occur when someone is cheating. You've already accused her, and she was upset with you. Do you feel that something is going on? If so, don't worry time will tell. When she talks on the phone, does she do it in front of you, do you hear the converstations? I don't know, this is a tricky one. Don't ignore it, but don't start arguments over it either, not until you find out what is truly going on.
2006-07-22 12:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...you sound like a great husband. But where there is smoke there is fire. Just have a sit down with her and ask for the truth. If she can't do it face to face, tell her to send it in an email. Or if you can handle it, tell her that if she is doing anything wrong, she should leave when you are not there, no questions asked.
No one should deal with a cheater. I didn't. Sometimes women find others who they think have more in common than the husband. But its her fault. If she has issues, you cant read her mind. Its not worth the heart ache and hassle.
on the side....I'd flip out, brag to all my family members and throw a huge Superbowl party for my man if he ONCE did any of the things you do. You will find another woman that will appreciate you for who you are; love and nurture you. Much Respect!
2006-07-22 12:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say if it's you or if it's really happening. What makes it really hard is the fact that you've been cheated on before after 19 years and now you have a hard time trusting women. You need to sit down with your wife, explain to her your feelings and why they are that way and try to get her to understand. Her reaction should tell you if she's guilty or not
2006-07-22 12:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are carrying over the feelings of betrayal from your first marriage. You are still hurting over that heartbreak. You've got to stop accusing the new wife or you will lose her too. Also, stop working so hard and don't do everything she tells you. Don't let her take you for granted.
2006-07-22 12:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Yolani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont play yourself. It's her, shes deffinatley up to somthing. I'm only a teen but I know alllllot of stuff about that because of my dad..and u dont wanna end up getting hurt. Shell just keep cheating and then the more you blame yourself the more shell get away with it then will finally ditch you. So end it before she does
2006-07-22 12:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going to these events with her after a while of you accusing her then she will want out i think you can work through this talk to her and say im sorry and ask her if she would care if you went with her to some of these events tell her you love her and want to spend more time with her
if she says no then you no there is more to it then she is saying only if she wont let you go with her
2006-07-22 12:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u truley love her. even though u would be leaving her i think u should leave her. Plus u dont sound like your having fun.You need a fun realtioship ....think about it you have one life to live ..make the most of it plus ...take chances u never know how good it could turn out to be !..u may find sombody new and better
2006-07-22 12:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too good for her-and she knows she can walk all over you! You can always look for that third wife!
2006-07-22 12:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her straight out. If she gives you an answer that you know is not like her then you know she wants out coz she has got someone else!
2006-07-22 12:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋