why are there so many divorces?

Answer 1

becuase people are with out accountability and over abuse the words feelings. i have read so many answers of questions in here and get sick thinking people like some in here are allowed to get married. ( if you dont feel you love him. if you feel like you could be happier, if you feel.....) and then they say its ok to break a promise you made in front of god and family based on feelings.
im a realist and know divorce happens even when there is good intentions but not at the rate it is these days. our great grands for the most part new what it meant to be married for life and new what a commitment meant before they married. people these days are not accountable for anything. and its noones business. if it feels good do it.

Answer 2

We are not taught and trained in the issue of marriage, so when we get married, we don't know how to handle it when the newness wears off and we are laying beside someone who makes us mad, or hurts our feelings, or bores us at times. We are led to believe that it is okay to go out and find someone new to give us that exciting, goose-pimple feeling that we once felt with our spouse. No one told us that if we are truly open and honest about what we want and need, with our spouse, and work towards a common goal, and let the Lord be the head of our household, that we truly CAN spend our lives with this person and be happy doing so. Divorce happens a lot of times because people forget that they have committed to one person, their loyalty, trust, and life. We give up. And the sad thing is that we don't seem to care how we hurt everyone else involved (in-laws, children, etc....). We are greedy, self-centered, and always looking for something new and exciting. We don't know what real love is. And THAT is why there is so many divorces.

Answer 3

The best way to answer this is to tell you how Not to have your marriage end in divorce. Before you get married, you need to have your priorities straight. You should go into your marriage knowing that divorce is Not an option. God must be a partner in your marriage. Both partners must be willing to give 100% of themselves to the relationship. You would not last long in a job where you were only giving 40%, 50% or 60% of your efforts! Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. You treat strangers with courtesy and respect. Doesn't the person you love most in life deserve at least the same consideration? Take your wedding vows seriouslly and remember that you took them before God! Always try to put your spouse ahead of yourself. Be willing to discuss Everything! Be one another's best friend.

Answer 4

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There are so many divorces because people tend to get into relationships for the LUST, before they decide if they really have all the other elements necessary for LOVE to last long term, such as RESPECT, BEST-FRIENDS, TRUST, and equal caring and sharing in a BALANCED way.
One doesn't walk away from their best-friend easily,
one doesn't cheat on someone they trust,
one realizes that trust is a rare commodity
and when you are accustomed to balance...you don't have many big problems.

Then when they do get to know the person, they discover lots they don't like very much...
ADDED to the fact that both sides often are so full of (the demon) PRIDE, that they do not put pride aside, to solve their problems with compromise.

The solution, is to go into a relaitonship EXPECTING the elements of love plus lust...and if it isn't there, don't marry that person. Keep shopping until you find the right one for you.

Even as a mature person, widow/er or divorced,
there are lots of choices, so go slow, and be wise
in selecting a long term mate.

I wish you love
stw
;)

Answer 5

There are several reasons why depending on the situation. Some people get married for the wrong reasons and once they realize that they split. Some are in such abuse that there is no other way. Some think the grass is greener on the other side and leave to find that it was green when they were looking from a distance but once they got up close they saw that the grass was dead or dying and needed too much care. So just simply give up b/c it takes work to keep a marriage and they just simply don't want to work anymore....It just depends...

Answer 6

I don't think there are....have you seen in your newspapers how many people get married every week? We live in a community with over 500 families....in the past 15 years only 4 families have divorced. I don't think we're different I think people just don't hear about the good statistics.

Answer 7

Because sometimes people just jump into a marriage before they truly know a person and soon realize they made a terrible mistake.
Lack of communication and the key to a great relationship is being a good listener :)

Answer 8

people don't work things out marriage has become a way to be financially secure and to get away from their parents. and sadly taxes to get more money back. i think marriage should be as expensive as a divorce it would save alot of the courts time less marriages less divorces

Answer 9

without pressures of society to commit and given the freedom to be fickle, people just don't choose to bear the hardships and would rather bail. They don't put as much thought into the commitment they're supposed to be making when they marry since there's always divorce available.

Answer 10

Because so many people marry whom they want, and not whom they really need. Then some people suffer under the delusion that they will be able to change someone, into what they want. Take the time to know yourself and what you want to become. If someone else wants to go on that ride, good luck, 'cause it's gonna be bumpy at times.