I'm just wondering. I think one is contrary to the other.
How can a person say they are in love with you and want to work really hard to gain a lasting and trusting relationship with you.....
and continue to lie to you. (Lieing by way of ommission -- Them Not telling + Not knowing = Justification therefore no wrong doing.
What do you think?
2006-07-22 04:44:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyone is the way they are for a reason.
Love is "not a duty to create sameness", but a challenge to work with each others differences.
If there is a history of some other offence like gambling, cheating, etc, then we have genuine deception Quit trying!!!!
If getting answers to your questions is like pulling teeth, please understand that man and woman cannot see the same picture.
I dont retain the same importance for recall as my partner does.
I dont consider innocent details and events in a busy day as being items of high priority.
If I find myself innocently it places that have the potential to create complicated and impossible conflict with my partner well CALL ME A LIAR but sometimes the truth can be more harmful than a lie so I will AVOID the truth because no matter how hard I try, my partner can only see what my partner is looking for.
2006-07-22 05:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that in the perfect world, truth and love go hand in hand, but we all know that they don't. People lie to protect themselves or others; we all have done it from time to time. If the person you love is good to you in all other ways, a small lie to protect your feelings, can sometimes be overlooked. It all depends on what he is lying about. Only you know the answer to that one. Good luck.
2006-07-22 04:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that a person has a predisposition for lying. Which means that this person is so used to lying that it is second nature to them and that person may not really know how to stop from doing it. Some sort of counseling is needed here to help that person get back on the right path.
2006-07-22 04:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, except I've been in my relation a little longer. He's lied to me for 2 1/2 years...and I feel unloved at times especially at times. But sometimes ppl lie because they feel the need to protect themselves because they think they are gonna get into trouble. If you feel uncomfortable with it all, leave because it may turn out uglier. Been there done that!
2006-07-22 04:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is DEFINATELY possible to love someone and still lie because alot of people lie because they're afraid of the truth. And when it comes to relationships, alot of the time people lie because they're afraid the truth will cause the relationship to not work out or cause the other person to leave them.
But I definately agree with you...the omission of information is still lying and I don't appreciate it.
2006-07-22 04:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother always said you are as good as your word.
My favorite saying is
Agape love does NOT act like that.
You cannot have a GOOD relationship on a shifting sand lie!
Confront with proof.Then decide is it worth it to live with someone you can never trust?It takes two for a good relationship.!Good luck!Pray for the right answer!I will pray you make the right decision.
2006-07-22 05:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by david w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Some people say they are "in love" but do not understand, or have a different idea of what love is.
Some people believe love is something that represents purity, honest, and passion.
Others think it just means passion.
If you TRULY love someone - you will always love them... if you are passioante about someone... it goes away.
I still "love" my first serious boyfriend... but he lied and broke my heart. I'm married to someone else I "love", but I will never stop loving that first boy... even though he is scum... I don't LIKE him... but there will always be that special feeling.
2006-07-22 04:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the person is truly in love with you then they probably are afraid to lose you therefore thinking if they dont "say" or "do" anything wrong but they just dont tell you then yes they are in love with you now if the person is out cheating on you and lying about it then no they r not.....
2006-07-23 14:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by luv2_givepleasure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't lie if you're in love...if you do then there's no point in the relationship. Both of you's would be insecure all the time!
2006-07-22 04:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by HotBarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat xactly are they hidin? i lied once to my bf. it hurt me to do it, but i was scared id lose him. after i told him da truth(15min l8er) i was pronouncd a lie 4 da rest of my life. i even told him WHY i lied...but he didnt care. question is: is he scared 2 tell u smthing bcuz he scared of losing u or is he doin it 2 b a a**? and when and if he tell u da truth, will u b able 2 handle it? will it effect ur relationship n a negative way? will u let it?
i kno i sound crazy, but just think about it. Yes u need to tell him how u feelin. i pray u can handle wat may come outta his mouth. Good-luck, gurl.
2006-07-22 04:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by Boss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋