2006-07-22 04:38:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just go to a gay bar and maybe one of the guys will ask you out that makes you life easier
2006-07-22 04:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Carefully! Because if he isn't gay, he could turn on you & make your life a living hell. If you already know he is gay or just enjoys being around other gay men, then ask him how he'd feel if you kissed him & lay one on him! If you think that's too much for you, you can just start a conversation with him about something the 2 of you may have in common (music/dancing/sports/tv/clothing/food) & when you discover something that is interesting, suggest that you both go & explore the possibilties & have a fun day (or night)! Personally, I hate the fact that people want to label everyone. When I used to do the club scene, people were always wanting to know if I was gay, straight, or bi & my answer was that I was TRY-SEXUAL! Meaning that I would try anything once & if I liked it , I would do it again! Why limit yourself? It really isn't anyones business what you do or who you do it with. It is between YOU & the other person (s) involved. It isn't as hard as you think it is, yet it isn't as easy as it should be! You don't have to wear a shirt that says you're gay until you feel the need to! You could just sleep in it on weekends & so what if you forget to take it off when you get up to get your morning newspaper! People are gonna talk no matter WHAT! It's your life. Go & live it your way!
2006-07-23 13:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Kid.
It's easy to tell if you are gay.
Gay = you are attracted to and sexually aroused by other males, but not sexually aroused at all by females.
Straight = you are attracted to and sexually aroused by females, but not sexually aroused at all by other males.
Bi = you are attracted to and sexually aroused by both males and females.
You do not get to select which one you are, and even if you try for years or "force yourself" to do what you think you are supposed to, you will not become what you were not to start with, you will just be hidden in the wrong world and unhappy underneath.
So.
If by those criteria you are gay, then first, deal with yourself. Once you are happy with you -- then you can start looking for possible boyfriends.
Understand, your real choice is not whether or not to be attracted to men. If what you say is true then you are attracted to men and you will be for the rest of your life. It's natural (see Bruce Bagemihl, Ph.D. "Biological Exuberance" St. Martins Press) and its normal for homosexual people (see the American Psychological Association and American Psychiatric Association statements on sexual preference) so your real choice is whether or not to be happy.
If you conclude that you want to be happy -- then start making friends with gay people. If you are in H/S there may be a gay/straight alliance club there. If so, join it -- you don't initially have to say you are gay, many straight people belong to such clubs -- and it allows you to meet people. If you are in college, find the on-campus gay and lesbian group -- and attend a meeting, sign up for the newsletter, and so forth.
There are other modes as well. If you are in an urban metro area, see if it has a gay, lesbian, bisexual -- whatever community center or coucil. If it does, call -- and see where gay youth groups might meet. For that matter, seek out a Unitarian Church, most Uni congregations have a gay concern's committee and some have youth groups where gays are accepted.
I could go on and on -- but there are some starter ideas, email me if you need to talk or need more specific information.
Enjoy being gay if you are, and have a good life.
Warmest thoughts,
Reynolds
http://www.rebuff.org
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-07-22 05:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with Radagast_23...just let things flow naturally. Go to some groups, hang with friends. If you do not have any real gay groups or such, then I would say go to a place where it is has a tendency to attract gay men like Banana Republic or Starbucks. No really I am not trying to be rude, but they do seem to attract more than lets say...Wal-Mart. Don't get them confused with metrosexuals(even though that is a whole other story.) And don't have sex with an older guy because they may be more laid back...more than likely you'll get burned. Don't rush into things. I didn't meet anyone until I was 18.
2006-07-22 16:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by yokaimayhem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you should figure out if you are gay before you ask a guy out? Watch other people closely, watch the women around you and the men around you, to see what makes you feel good. Pay careful attention to how your body responds when you are around an attractive male or female.
2006-07-22 04:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by ღஜAidaஜღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the learning stage. Anyone you date will not be forever. Take the pressure off yourself and just hang out with your friends. If you want to get sex, try looking for an older guy that is more confident and laid back. That is often the best way to learn anyway i.e. a mentor. Dont stress and dont do anything that isnt safe sex.
2006-07-22 04:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I wold practice with the gay community.
find in your area on the internet.
you must do this I am 57 and just came out..If you do not and hide you will ruin your life..
you see I suffered every day of my life..
and know at the old age of 57 I pay for all the things I did not do...
and worse know that im out... it does not matter for all has turned into an imagination and the real is unreal
so please have safe sex until you and your partner are checked out
2006-07-22 07:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by john 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in new york and have the same problem, Teens have way less resources when it comes to homosexuality, that's the way society works i guess you can't drink 'til you're twenty one and you can't be gay until your mother finds out or your eighteen.
anyway just go for it, go to the gayest neighborhood in your area and scope out the guy that you think you might like and ask him if he'd like a cup of joe or whatever your name is
2006-07-22 04:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by luverboy lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to deal with...if you know the other person is gay then just ask...having no said to you isn't all that bad..but i think you'll likely get an 'okay' from the other person..Good Luck.
...and btw..if you think you might be gay...trust me you are...it's not bad..celebrate your happiness.
2006-07-22 04:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the other guy out as a friend, not as a "date." As you get to know him, you'll be able to talk about who you are. It takes time. You're in the "learning to deal with it" stage. Trust me, it all will get sorted out sooner or later and you'll be happy!
2006-07-22 05:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by manx_max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋