The relationship i'm in is the BEST one yet. I dont want to lose him. i know i been rude and stuff and i'm working on the things that he has asked me to but it doesnt seem good enough for him. I just dont want to lose him. what do i do?
2006-07-22 04:17:12 · 10 answers · asked by countrylovinggirl81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Instead of worrying about losing him what about losing yourself? If you want to change because you want to better yourself....good for you, but if you're changing to make him happy and to keep him....very bad idea.
2006-07-22 04:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a jerk. My best advice on how to not lose him is to apply 2 rounds of .45ACP to his face at dinner time. these should be traveling at about 850 feet per second. There is usually a marking device erected where they bury him so you can be sure exactly where he is at all times.
But seriously, do you want to be in a relationship where you can't be rude and the things you do aren't good enough? Ive been in a couple of those. They aren't fun, and they ALWAYS end up with you getting dumped. wasted time, wasted effort.
2006-07-22 11:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Stand-up Philosopher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get 2 books - "Crucial Conversations" and "5 love languages". Read them alone or together if he is willing.
Ask him what bothers and him and consider it. Is he asking you reasonable things, like don't be rude to me and don't disrespect me? Does he have a double standard for you and him (bad if he does)? If you are rude and inconsiderate, he will not stay for long unless he has low self esteem or something.
Be a good person, but you also have to be true to yourself. If he requires you to change your values, take a step back and consider this very carefully because it could be a red warning flag. Carefully evaluate if it is just s*x, a relationship, or him you really want. True love will not ask you to change the vital parts of who you are. (READ THE BOOKS)
2006-07-22 11:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the best one, yet there are things about you he wants you to change, and then more things on top of the ones he's already pointed out? Hmmmm...I think what you might be saying is this is the best s*x you've ever had (unless you are very young and not sexually active yet...then that's "my bad"). Well, I'm here to tell you that you can have it all, baby...but this guy isn't it. You need to breakup with him and relax because the absolute BEST is yet to come.
2006-07-22 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be so rude and selfish :) A relationship is a lot of give and take :) So both parties have to be willing to work at it daily. Not something you do today and forget it tomorrow :) If you don't want to loose him, you know what you have to do and that is be nicer to him. Men don't like to be smothered or feel like they are under the watchful eye. Take my advise give each other respect and respect each others personal space as well :) Goes along ways :) Best of luck to you !
2006-07-22 11:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good way not to lose ur b/f is by not being to obssesive i am not saying u have been b/c i don't know u but just let him do his thing.
2006-07-22 11:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by puppyluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u kno u hav been rude n stuff then its bst 2 go n tell him dat u r really sorry 4 dat n mean dat!!!!!!!!!!
d feelin should b true n everythin will workout fine!!!!!!!!!
try n b more polite n make up 4 ur mistakes by bein extra 2 sweet!!!!!!!!
n always make him feel really special!!!!!!!!!!!
best o luck!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-22 11:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi cOuntryLUVin!!!!
c i will really giv u a veryyyyyyyyyyy nice advice.....never ever in ur whole life suspect or b harsh 2 ur bf....c if u r harsh wid ur bf or if u suspect on him 2222222222 much den de bf himself gets irritated n bored n tries 2 find sum1 else 4 himself who acc 2 him will not suspect or be harsh 2 him......c lil fights even i can understand but never ever indulge in bigggg fights....c take my advice....go on a date wid him n try 2 sort out dis matter wid him....if he iz happy by u means if he 4gives u den telll him dat 1 cute gal named Sallu[SaLWa] gave dis advice 2 me....but if he iz still angry n doesnt 4give u den dare if u take my name....lol...hahaha... :).... ;)jokin buddy.....just chill...rem 1 thing life iz short so live it 2 its fullest......don waste ur life in stupidity...
*****Hope u liKEd mY anS...*****
2006-07-22 11:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him your best friend..the keyword is communication,and when you connect with him its Nirvana!!! good luck dear..
2006-07-22 11:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by gaijin in tokyo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to much
2006-07-22 11:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by HUSTLER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋