One of my friends is my best friend, heh, how thrilling... not. Ok ok... well thing is, she's my bestie n all, jst she's doing so many things. She has all these commitments inside and outside of school, and when i need someone to talk to, i'm afraid she won't be there, or if she is, she'll have no time to talk. Even if she does have time to talk, will she really want to listen? I just don't know anymore. I'm scared to ask her about it. She's a really really happy person, and really free-spirited. I don't want to ruin that, and if i do confront her, i'm afraid it'll make our friendship... awkward.
Although i guess we are close, there just never seems to be a time to be able share stuff with her, as besties do, and everytime there does seem to be a good time to share, it feels awkward talking to her about anything. It's as though she's been caught up with her busy life, she's forgotten how to care for her friends when they need her. Something like that anyway.
Any thoughts on this?
2006-07-22 04:10:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah! You are so describing something I'm going through too! 1 of my closest buds loves to stay busy, really super busy -- to the point of distraction -- like a constant storm of activity. I don't want that and yet we both miss our closeness.
We schedule time together, but I am also nurturing other relationships that can give me some of the things I need, cuz the "one and only best friend" thing isn't very realistic.
And here's one more thought. People who keep super busy, constantly "happy, happy" insane busy, may not be cut out for closeness while they do their thing. Plus, they may actually feel uncomfortable getting too close to one person -- kinda like a defense to protect themselves. Let her know you care and that you are there for her - but don't worry about her too much.
2006-07-22 04:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that she's not really your bestie anymore. Accept this and know that there are other girls out there that you will meet and have an opportunity to make your best friend. You need to expand your friendship base. Try not too get too obsessed with being best friends with one girl. Perhaps you should become more "busy" too and get more invovled in stuff both in and outside of school. Good luck.
2006-07-22 11:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, my best friend stays busy with school and two jobs and i have my own thing going on. We hadnt hung out in forever and it seems she's always hanging out with her roommate. I suggest if she has an email address, just to send her like a card and tell her that youre thinking about her and u miss her, when she see's it it will possibly get the ball rolling for u to communicate and plan to get together. Good Luck
2006-07-22 11:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her space and be patient. If you try to force the issue, you will lose her. It sounds like she may have an issue shes hiding from trying to stay busy all the time,so just tell her you will be there for her if and when shes ready to talk or needs you. Its the best thing you can do. Good luck
2006-07-22 11:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should find something to do and find more friends i been throught that my friend like almost didnt talk to me at all but now i have more than just on friends and know she talking to me like we used to before i guess i really have to talk send her a email or letter by telling her that u really miss her and hope u could hang out like before and u would always be there for her good luck!
2006-07-22 11:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by andrea_lara92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn how to deal with your own problems because you are not always going to have some there to help you with your problems. and she needs to do what she thinks is best for her. maybe some of the things that she is doing is important for her to go somewhere in life.
2006-07-22 14:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by zadyroar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are growing apart. You should involve yourself in things you like doing, and you will make new friends. It happens to everyone, hun, just go with it.
2006-07-22 11:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, ask her to join you at something ask really, really enjoys or wants to do. If she still does not have time for you, let her go.
2006-07-22 11:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend would always listen to a friend in time of need. keep your friendship wirth her.
2006-07-22 11:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋