I am constently changing the way i look at life?

Question

Now my life changes all the time, but i find some of my friends changing into different directions than me. What do i do to stay friends with them without having to be in competition with them and myself?

Answer 1

Change is always better especially in your viewpoints towards life as it just might give you a new life, plus as it helps you move along faster and smoother in your journey towards yourself.

Just make sure you also allow your friends to change and move on the paths that suits them.

And don’t worry about being alone in your journey, you’d never be for as long as you stay open to new bonds, and provide they suit your new energies, or simply vibe with you better.

Soon you will be able to differentiate between those who disconnect you with your path and those who will aid you in your journey ahead.

Make sure you let go of old relationships with gratitude, and what ever happens always make sure you leave the doors to your hearts open to old friends you never know when they might feel like catching up on you.
Make sure to delink with those who drag you back to your old level of consciousness.

Answer 2

First and foremost you need to be you, and if they can't face that fact then they probably weren't that good of friends to begin with. I believe that I am the same way as you, through the years between having a kid and being a family man I have definitely changed my outlook on life and how I can impact my own life as well as those around me. I guess what you can do to keep your friends is to just keep in contact with them whether they live near or abroad, if they are true friends they won't care what your outlook on life is as long as it isn't something that they are totally against.

I used to be part of this big group of friends that always hung out together, we had so much fun doing everything that we did. We went to the lake, partied together, some of us slept together (guys with girls of course), we just had fun being free. Fast forward to now, I am pretty much the only one that stays in contact with mostly all of my past friends. Why is that you ask, because the group split and got smaller and this guy didn't like what that guy did and they just never got over it and I just try to stay neutral. That would be my advice to you no matter what don't get between two friends that are in a fight because they will no doubt try to bring you in the middle and then you aren't liked by the other guy and it never stops. Just be yourself and if they can't accept that then F**K EM.

Answer 3

I do this also. people grow and change. the first time you discover you have a different growth direction than those around you, it may be difficult to make the necesary choice. most people don't know that they have a choice because theyre not paying attention. I have had the luxury of having very clear choices with measurable results. stick with my friends from high school and be an unemployed stoner later in life, or go join the military? belive what TV says, or start going to church? Doing trend analysis, i came to the conclusion that doing what feels good is probably not the best way. Doing what is honorable will eventually pay off. you may be able to keep your friends, maybe not. i had to learn how to function without a support group, but after i did, that group of high school dropouts was no longer appealing. they had nothing to offer me, and i had nothing to offer them.

Answer 4

Hi Paradox -

I am becoming more spiritual and am raising my energy vibrations and I'm finding that my energy no longer resonates with other energy that is at a different level than mine. Not to say that one energy level is better than another.

I've done what I call a Feng Shui of my friends......those that no longer resonate with me, I've just moved on. There was a time when I had no friends at all, (like the tarot card the Hermit), when you are alone, it opens up new opportunities for spiritual developement and opened the way for better friendships for me.

It wasn't easy, but why subject yourself to surroundings of people that no longer suit who you are becoming?

Answer 5

Don't you think you'd be bored in a static position or if you and your friends had no different interests? Ever see that bumper sticker "You're unique...just like everyone else"? IMO we should view our friends as gifts that may last a lifetime or may bless our days but briefly. We shouldn't cling to friendships but enjoy them and allow them to evolve and sometimes dissipate as times change. There are many more friends waiting to be met and new friendships waiting to be created. Enjoy your interests and allow your friends the freedom to enjoy theirs without striving to be too similar.

Answer 6

Your best friends (the keepers) are the ones who know you beneath all of your many changes. Those are the ones that you don't ever want to lose. Allow them to be who they are, and you won't lose them.

In time they will depend on you to know them beneath their many changes. Let your superficial friendships that become problems for you go.

Answer 7

Except them for who they become and realize that you are changing too, and try to make the time for one another, even when it makes no sense to do so.

Answer 8

allow them the same freedom to grow in any direction that you allow yourself...you don't have to have everything in common with your friends or think alike about everything...how you feel about your friends changes...people rise and fall in your life, and often, even if they fall they rise again...be yourself and learn to accept others as they are.

Answer 9

Don't. Move on. Let people be what they want to be. Let yourself be what you want to be. Allow yourself to move to awkward territory. Don't say, "it's not who I am." Instead, tell yourself, "This is new, and I want to see how it plays out."