why do i feel so hurt and empty after my wife left me last week even though we cant live together?

Question

she has chosen her family over me

i do love her and have been with her for 6yrs but i issues with her just as she has with me,but we cant seem to discuss and resolve it,ive been to the docs and hes put me on tablets for depression 5 wks ago,and there not helping,all i do is sit here and cry

Answer 1

You need to give more information. Why did she leave you for her family? If you are married, you made a commitment to eachother. There has to be more to the story.

Answer 2

Maybe Sandra is his wifes name....

A week is a short time for you to think that things can not change. Best thing is not to make to many decisions whilst you are emotionally hurt but think about what you want from the relationship. Also what you can do to change. It appears from your question you probably have an issue with expressing yourself which is a common male thing and she wishes you would.

Do something nice that she would not expect even if it is a cliche like sending flowers. If there are more reasons like abuse or anything of that nature seek help. Abuse is not always physical.

If you get back together agree on common rules for example

if there is some reason you feel or she feels like leaving that you arrange a time to return and discuss things together.

That you are a team and work together rather than against one another, that you are not in competition.

That there are no third parties in your relationship just you and your partner.

Answer 3

Reality is setting in. You are realizing that you are about to lose a big part of you. Losing her to her family doesnt help matters either. You are about to enter into a big change in your life and changes, no matter how good or bad, are hard for us to accept. You willprobably start to play the blame game trying to figure out the whys and what could you have done different to save it. It sounds like she had her mind made up about this some time ago whether you realize it or not and her family was the only place for her to go. Now if you just cant let go and live without her, then go after her, afterall she is your wife and the games not over til the fat lady sings. If you want something,youre willing to take a risk, if you want something badly enough,then youre willing to risk it all. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, so quit your candy *** whining about what happened and go get her. good luck

Answer 4

You feel hurt and empty because you have been rejected. When a relationship breaks up then we go through all the phases of a bereavement because it is similar - in both cases we have lost a loved one. You don't say why you can't live together, or why there had to be a choice between you and her family. If her family forced her to choose and she chose them, then I am afraid you will have to accept that she no longer loved you enough. Because I don't know any of the facts I can't advise you further, but hope things get better for you and wish you all the luck for the future.

Answer 5

Maybe because your wife has left you,you are feeling lonely and having to adapt to a single life again which will be hard going to begin with but time is a great healer as the saying goes.So dont worry but try to have a little `me time`to re-adjust...Eventually the pain and hurt will disappear and you will find the courage and strength to find love again...so take your time,ring up some mates and go out and enjoy yourself.........Good luck.

Answer 6

Knowing it or not there's always a bond when you live with someone.....it takes a little time of being away from your norm...which is being with your wife.....Comfortable surroundings would be her and your home...now these things are gone....theres' where the loneliness comes.....the worst thing is to let all the things you're worried about to occupy your mind. By the way....you never said if you love here or not....if so....chances are she'll be talking with you soon.....something happened to make her choose her parents....sometimes girls are still there parents baby. Wish you luck....don't agravate her at this time....let it go....let things smooth over....you two will be talking soon.

Answer 7

Well if you were married a while of course you'll feel empty, she is your wife, you both are committed to each other. But sweety you need to give a little more info so i can understand why she can't live with you or even why she left? I will be okay, you will feel like this for a while but, you need to keep yourself busy so you don't feel so lonely.

Answer 8

You are grieving for your loss. I bet she not sat at home crying over you - probably down the club getting pulled.

Set aside 20 minutes in the day to look at her photo and feel sad. After a few days you will get fed up with it. It´s just life and it sucks. Try getting out more with mates and throw those damn pills away. Oh and don´t turn to drink either.

Answer 9

because a big part of your life has walked out and closed the door... it is the same as if someone you loved died...you will go through this grieving period and then slowly you will start on the road to recover... may last a long time, and maybe not depending on how you pull yourself together... sorry for your hurting and emptiness...

Answer 10

It will take awhile to get over your sorrow. It is like mourning a death, so give it time. Try to be around other people instead of being by yourself. Eventually, you will start to feel better and find a new relationship.

Answer 11

I think that we never wants to loose our spouse and wish that all thinks would go our way just as we planned but this is life, and life is unpredictable. we always try to hold on to something that just isn't there anymore and at one time it was. time heals all wounds and if you really couldn't live together you will see things improve and that empty feeling will soon disappear.