i'm in a tight spot. i'm 16 and live in a hostel as my parents are professionals away from my city. recently we friends had a night out. i didn't want to but i gave in and slept with a guy that night (he's one of my best friends). it was my first time. yesterday i found out that i'm pregnant. that came as a shock. one we used protection and two how could i get pregnant just after my first time? the bigger problem is that i don't know what to do. my parents' trust in me would be shattered to bits. i can't tell this to anyone here as i have this reputation of being a 'miss goody two shoes'. i'm an A grade student. what do i do? should i tell the guy?
2006-07-22 03:33:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
FIRST YOU SHOULD TALK W/THE GUY ABOUT THIS AND FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO.(KEEP THE BABY OR SOME OTHER OPTION?) THEN YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR PARENTS AND DEAL WITH THEM THEY OF COURSE WILL BE DISAPPOINTED IN YOU BUT HOPEFULLY THEY WILL HELP YOU THOUGH THIS.
IT ONLY TAKES ONCE TO GET PREGNANT.
I TO WAS ONLY 16 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT AND I ALSO WAS A GOOD STUDENT AND IT WAS ONLY MY SECOND OR THIRD TIME (WITH THE SAME PERSON THAT WAS MY FIRST).
WHEN I NEW FOR SURE WE TOLD MY MOTHER (I MADE HIM BE THERE FOR SUPPORT) SHE WAS SO UPSET SHE WAS READY TO KILL HIM. SHE EVEN TOLD HIM TO LEAVE OR HE WOULD BE LEAVING IN A BODY-BAG.LOL IT WASN'T FUNNY THEN BUT NOW OVER 9 YRS WE CAN LAUGH. SHE EVEN TOLD ME I WAS TO GET RID OF THE BABY OR SHE WOULD DO IT FOR ME. WAS I EVER UP SET I PACKED MY THINGS AND LEFT. AFTER 2 DAYS SHE CALLED SHE WAS CALMED DOWN THANKS TO MY OLDEST SISTER. WE HAVE A VERY GOOD RELATIONSHIP NOW AND SHE LOVES MY DAUGHTER SO MUCH. I EVEN FINISHED SCHOOL 6 MONTHS BEFORE EVERYONE ELSE YOU CAN TO IT JUST TAKES SOME TIME THAT'S ALL. GOD DOESN'T GIVE YOU ANYTHING YOU CAN'T HANDLE. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU IN YOUR JOURNEY!!
2006-07-22 03:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by ROSIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to tell the guy for one.....I hope he dosen't ditch out on you. The condom must have broke or leaked. Man that is tough I really wish you the best. Hope you give this child the best life you can or give it up what ever your decision is I hope you the best. Also your only 16 so you will get some harrasment in school probably but just know true friends will stand by you forever through anything, and a parents love is unconditional. Really they should be around, things happen in teenagers lives and they should already know that. They better help you out with this. GOOD LUCK HUN. my prayers are with you
2006-07-22 10:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should tell the guy and see what he thinks about it if he is willing to be there for you then you both will decide what you are going to do together. if he is not up for it then you tell your parents and see what happens from there if you want to keep it and he wont help you then let your parents know and see if they are willing to help you if not give birth and give the baby up for adoption. but you shouldn't have an abortion because when you want to have kids later on you might not be able to. if the procedure is done wrong.
2006-07-22 14:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by zadyroar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hun ok well you have to think about what you want. yes it can happen condoms can have holes in them. There are plenty of options out there there is adoption, abortion or you can have the baby and take care of it. but if your parents suggest you get married to this guy dont do it. I got prgnant at 15 had her at 16 and i love her to death she is my pride and joy. she is 3 years old now and i would give my life for hers in an instant. i am married to her daddy and we are happy i love him too but i love my daughter more. Your parents cant decide for you they might try but only do what you feel is right. i believe in abortion but i didnt want to do it. And to be honest i couldn't carry her in my tummy for 9 months feeling the kicking and hicupps and movement i couldnt give her away that didnt even cross my mind. you can have this baby and you dont have to get married. my mother told me all the options i had she told me adoption, abortion, or i could have the baby and stay with her and she would help me. or i could marry and be an adult. befor we got married we were together for 3 years and we love each other. now we have been together for 6 years and we love each other even more. If i was in your situation i would have the baby but not get married. i would finish school and go on to college, you should tell the guy because that baby is half his too. hun you are the only one that can decide on what your going to do. good luck hun. I hope you find your answer. Sincerly,
Chandra
2006-07-22 10:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your parents you need their help now, they will be very upset at first, but give them time, PLEASE you need someone to talk to now, and your parents are the right ones, give them a chance, you don't know whats going through their minds,So many young girls get pregnant and they don't give there parents a chance . What do you have to lose by telling them.Their love is unconditional.They may be disappointed for awhile but they will get over it...good luck and talk to your parents
2006-07-22 11:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all are you sure your pregnant? You may wnt to do another test!.. second of all yes you should tell him, it is half his responsability!.. third of all there are so many help places that you can go to to get a free test and advice.. Look in the phone book under pregnancy.. In my area there is a place called Planned parenthood.. check it out and Good Luck!
2006-07-22 10:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by 9929 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the guy and then you both can tell your parents together. If he backs out, which he might, then you've ruined a great friendship, but then you need to tell your parents any ways either on your own or with a different friend.
2006-07-22 10:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing to do is to own up to it. There are lots of things to consider. Abortion, adoption, keeping the child which I don't recommend. The statistics of young single parents are staggering, poverty, child problems etc. I would go ahead and talk to your parents. I know it seems like they might be devastated but I think they can be your best support if they are any thing like mine are.
2006-07-22 10:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by James L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get pregnant on ur first time. maybe the condoms broke. Your going to have to tell ur parents. Trust me the trust maybe broken in to bits but they will give it back to ya. I broke my parents trust ALOT and i have gotten it back.
2006-07-22 10:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by countrylovinggirl81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep tell the guy and of course he should help out with the baby. you can get preg with your first time of doing it, the protection might had a hole or broke.
2006-07-22 10:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋