2006-07-22 03:24:30 · 19 answers · asked by The busy baker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it is not.
Too many people today are married just because they were told they should be. The result is a whole mess of shallow, unintimate, undevoted marriages.
Stop and think about what marriage is supposed to be, at it's very purest level. It's a promise of love. That's it. Not a promise to love IF the other person loves you back. Funny thing about love, you don't fully experience it unless you are giving it away. It's like sunlight. You can constantly seek it, looking for someone to shine it on you to make you feel warm and good...and spend the rest of the time feeling cold and sad...or you can radiate it yourself, keeping yourself warm and happy. And all you want is to find someone upon whom you can shine. They don't even have to agree to it. You can love them and they can't stop you. The magic happens when they realize your love, and want to return it.
Maybe that's a stupid metaphor, but it's difficult to explain. Anyway, my point is that to truly feel that love you're looking for, you give it away. You don't expect anything in return. Marriage happens when two people have found each other to love for the rest of their lives. The wedding is their opportunity to express what they feel for one another. They are so happy to have found this other person who appreciates the love they each have to give, that they want to share their joy with everyone else. It is a celebration of love in the purest sense. It has nothing to do with sex, it has nothing to do with a legal contract, it has nothing to do with white dresses and cakes and cans behind a car. It is about two people who want to tell each other that, no matter what life may throw at them, they vow to be a friend and helper to the other for as long as they live. It is not something that is asked of you. It is not a tedious life-long chore; it is something that you are so eager to do, so eager to share, that you call all your family and friends and neighbours to witness it. The other person's intentions in the matter are secondary. All you want from them is an appreciation and respect for the magnitude of your gift.
A promise is something you put on your to-do list. A vow becomes a part of who you are.
2006-07-22 03:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by intuition897 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No - not necessary at all...
BUT it is a declaration to the world of your love for each other and your INTENT to spend the rest of your lives together as a couple.
The word unfortuantly is INTENT because these days so many pressures are on people and personalities change over time. You may find yourself after 10 years in a relationship wanting other things than you did previously and your current partner is unable or unwilling to provide or join in those things.
Basically - think long and hard about it - its a serious commitment even with all the religious motives aside
Good Luck
2006-07-22 10:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not...if that's not something you desire to do, then do not do it...that doesn't mean you still cannot share your life with someone you care about, if you want to do that.
Marriage is a legal binding, not an emotional binding...there are certain issues such as taxes and such that benefit a couple being married versus not being married...but that's about it...
In many states too, if you've lived together a number of years (7 I think) you're considered to be married by common law, even though there was no ceremony.
Do what is right for you...bottom line.
2006-07-22 10:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not " necessary " to get married. Lots of people people have been perfectly fine without being "married" be it that they prefered being alone or were content with having the commitment without the ceremony. Remember the term "common law wife" ? That started so people who weren't "married" to have some rights of the commitment. What ever YOU decide is fine!!!
2006-07-22 10:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it sure is necessary to get married why I want to be best husband and father to my wife and 2 children... where I come from my family don't sit down and talk and do things they hurt me and saying bad things and I told myself that If I ever get married and I will make sure that I will be better than them.
and it did. 9 years now and that my necessary to get married and I know people don't stop and think what is really marriage is about? it about sharing man and woman, to share trust, honest, commucate, love, sharing, givers, having children where to teach and growing and love, protect them, trust them, and be married forever no matter how many times you are sick or mad or angry, or hate, etc. always need to sit down and talk about it. that mean no way around mean like divorce, cheating, not saying anything, stuff like that. like true love and sharing and always.
Now it been 9 years and looking forward to make it happen to 50 or 78 if lucky years.
Depend on people.
2006-07-22 11:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in marraige but only if you love the person. i am married and i must say if i ever get divoreced i more then likely wont get married again. not that i dont love my husband i just wouldnt. i know a couple people that dont believe in marraige. lots of people never get married. its just up to you and what your comfortable with. now there are some laws in some states that say if you lived together for 7 to 9 years that they consider you legally married. but dont quote me on that. well hun good luck i hope you find your answer.
2006-07-22 10:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessary to get married if you don't want to.I think some people prefer to be single all their life.I don't think a person should live with a boyfriend/girlfriend for the rest of their life.That is morally wrong.I lived with my husband two years before we got married.
2006-07-22 10:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other cultures, no.
here,people have a mentality like it'sunusual to be independent and secure on your own, like your lacking something.
Elsewhere, you are lacking if you'renot independent.
Discover yourself first. Fulfill all you want to, that only you can fulfill anyway, first, THEN maybe let someone else in who does NOT pose a threat to what you've established.
Your life is for you, isnt it? Arent YOU experiencing it, too?
It's possible to the extent that the other person believes it is.
;)
2006-07-22 10:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Yentl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is, It is wrong in my eye's to have sexual relations with someone and not be married, but that is just me and my belief, Try reading the bible, King James, it will help. Good luck.
2006-07-22 10:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... you don't go into a store and take home a pair of shoes with paying for them... same as when you are in a relationship.. you want to be legally a couple then yes .. get married... you may like it
2006-07-22 10:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by sswan007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋