We are not married yet, I'm just wondering if there's any divorced or married couples with some advice.
2006-07-22 03:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK let me get this straight you anf him are a couple of 5 years but are not married, if you and him are not married then you can't have a divorce and if you and him are arguing that much then seek a counseling and if that doesn't do it then move on, better to be 5 year relationship broke up then to be 1 year marriage and then divorce. You do need have someone there that is nuetral in the arguement that can look at both sides, to tell you and him what is going on. Like is one just trying to pick a fight with the other or what, counselor will see it and tell you and him. Good luck.
2006-07-22 03:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off -- life is too short to be arguing about every little thing.. and the big things should be talked about like you would talk with a co worker....
If your life is like this then see a counsellor (not sure if this is for you or a friend- as you say stay together so they avoid divorce..and you say you are not married) get this all out in the open why all of this arguing takes place... maybe it is not meant to be ..if you are auguring all the time, you surely cannot be happy...I know as when I would argue I would be miserable... don't let this happen to you.
2006-07-22 03:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by sswan007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get couples counseling and if your arguing that much now and your not married u may want to give it some serious thought before you get married, unless there are children involved, which then u should definately try all u can to make it work before giving up..
2006-07-22 03:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get professional counseling. If you get married before you work things out, the marriage will fail. There is a reason you argue a lot. Maybe you two are not a good match.
2006-07-22 03:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by chicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up its just a small hump in your relationship things will get better make sure the two of you talk make a point to spend at least 45min together with a rule of no arguing play a game watch a movie whatever you like remember communication is key point tell him how you feel and try to picture yourself in his shoes and vice versa good luck sweetie it will work out
2006-07-22 05:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by sunnyday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOt married how to avoid divorce?
2006-07-22 05:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a phase. i went through it in my fifth yr. we arguerd so much that i almost left him. ii remeber crying every night to sleep even thought maybe i should be with some one else. it went on for month then finally we just talked and talked and went ou talone no one else and most importantly stopped listerning to other ppl. we recalled the way way we were went we started dating just recalled some old memories. it helped and ofcouse if all fails u could try counseling
2006-07-22 03:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if counselling dont work, leave...what is commitment got to do with your life? you mean it is alright for you to suffer because of that? You must visualize yourself another 5 years from now and think if you still want to stay or leave and decide before its too late.
2006-07-22 03:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun dont nit pick over every little thing. marraige isnt easy. trust me. also i suggest get a prenump. just in case. set some boundaries for both of you. all i can say is love each other and be there for each other. dont let family get in your problems those problems are between you and that other person. well good luck hun.
2006-07-22 03:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋