i suffer from clinical depression my father sexually abused me as a young child im only seventeen i just had my heart broken by a guy who kept cheating on me and dumped me. in the past this would result in self harm or suicidal thoughts but i've been on very strong meds for the past year and im numb. is being numb better then feeling pain?
2006-07-22 02:42:00 · 11 answers · asked by clara 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would prefer to feel pain, if you are aware of hurting then you are really living. Bad things happen to good people, dont punish yourself because of evil actions commited by someone who should have known better.
Let yourself work through it, cry, shout, scream and be peaceful when you need to. These actions can only make us human... good luck for the future and keep your chin up.
2006-07-23 23:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by flirtymcboob 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Numbness is an appropriate feeling to protect too much stress being placed on our psyche. This helps to prevent illness and suicide ect.. However if you do not feel the pain you will never be able to move through the pain and so at various times as you move through life the pain will creep out and again you will supress it. I lost my mum, nan, home and friend all in the last two years and i am only now begining to grieve. And this is due to me just feeling numb all the time- at the time i felt this was good because it meant i could carry on as normal even though i had lost so much. However when the pain started escaping it became way too much to handle. I went to a therapist- who is amazing and really helps me deal with the pain- maybe you could do this, You have been through so much, Hiding it won't help- trust me. Releasing things will be much more beneficial. Though this numbness you feel is completely normal. Good luck sweetie, x
2006-07-22 07:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step father sexually abused me as a young child, as well and i have since had my heart broken many, many times...i am much older than you...going to be 50 this year...
i believe that i would not change my feelings growing up...i was not numb...however, i was not self abusive nor suicidal either...i did not come to grips with the abuse until i turned 30...
everyone who is an adult survivor of child abuse (in ANY form) has only survived due to their own ingenuity...we all cope with things differently...we all have triggering circumstances, we all feel pain and sorrow from time to time...
even though you say that you are numb, i find it hard to believe because you state that you had your heart broken recently...
i found that my choice of men was not the best and learned to cope with the pain and all by avoiding certain situations that would trigger memories that were not pleasant... whoever says it is not okay to grieve has not felt the pain we have...if the medication is causing you to not harm yourself, then take it for now...anything to cope...when you feel as if you are strong enough, then maybe try life without the meds...
you need to survive this and get past it, regardless of the numbness...we all learn to cope one way or the other...whatever works for you is the right thing...
there are some of us out here who know EXACTLY what you are going through...hang in there, it only gets better!
2006-07-22 02:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is like asking "Is it better to be catatonic or a masochist?" It's important to realize you have other options . . . and none of them can be found in the past . . . or future . . . or being defined by so-called "mental health professionals". Fearing pain is one of the greatest and most common pains. Fear of pain is particularly encouraged by those who have no idea of how to deal with it. You don't have to jump on the bus to hell or the one to indifference. There are countless other temporary destinations you could head for. It's not getting somewhere that matters so much as appreciating the trip.
Sexual abuse is a harsh experience for anyone, even more so for a child. But it does not define who you are. Pleasure and pain are not the only notes in your symphony. Check out the experiences of aesthetics, compassion for others, appreciation and even humor. These are yours too. Might as well give them a spin.
2006-07-22 03:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are times in any recovery process where being numb is necessary to block out extreme pain. This is true of mental anguish. As time goes along and hopefully your suffering will be alleviated by good advice, treatment and support, you will be able to feel again without the extreme responses you've described. Good luck, and take one day at a time.
2006-07-22 02:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue being numb with your meds...
Its better than feeling the hurt and grevious bodily harm that was inflicted on you.Its not escapism but its well,a fact of life.
One day,you will grow up to be well-shield and stronger against people who are there to harm you again because you have become immune to them.
Have a great life ahead!
2006-07-22 02:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shakespeare asked the same question, 'is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all?', so your in good company.
I think feeling the pain is better than being numb, but sometimes i can appreciate it can be difficult either way. i really hope you pull through and find a good person to be with. best of luck.
2006-07-22 02:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depression is a man made term and a man made illness your sad, your angry at the world, your angry with God i bet, its not depression its feelings that have been hurt pain is a good thing it lets us know we are alive try and see the bigger picture in life to know that we are all going back into the ground where we came from we all are accountable for our actions doesnt matter how rich or poor, doesnt matter if its the smartest person or one of average intelligence keep moving learn from these experiences and always know that were all here temporarily and there is a price paid for what we do in this life its a beautiful world out there go live in it
2006-07-22 03:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each state of beoing serves its porpose .....I needed periods of numbness during my life in order to function eventually when I was ready the feelings would encompass my consciousness even when I fought it...........then comes acceptance and growth.... I have found that my most painful trials have been the most rewarding the long run......always the truth anand acceptance of pain is the best....
2006-07-22 03:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by demarest2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's all or nothing, feeling pain is better than being numb - at least that way you are feeling.
2006-07-22 02:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by ceprn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋