My son has just admitted he was homosexual to us (his parents). I am very upset I would like him not gay please help us.
2006-07-22 01:58:13 · 18 answers · asked by OS 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
He wont be very healthy if he contracts the AIDS!! WHICH NO CURE EXISTS FOR! WILL HE??
STOP TELLING ME TO BE HAPPY HES HEALTHY THEN
2006-07-22 02:03:15 · update #1
ALL I CAN SAY IS SUCKS TO BE YOUR SON!!!!!...TOO BAD HE DOESN'T HAVE AN OPEN MINDED MOTHER THAT WILL LOVE HIM UNCONDITIONALLY....AND UMMMM, HELLO....ANYONE CAN CONTRACT AIDS...NOT SURE WHERE U GOT YOUR INFO ON THAT.
2006-07-22 04:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seriously now that is a messed up question. You can't make people be 'ungay'. Just love the fact that you have a healthy and happy son.
*EDIT Just read your addition to the question.
Do you really think that only gay people get aids? I'm not trying to be mean to you or put you down, but you do seriously need to do some more research before you talk to your son about this. That kid trusts you and values your opinion enough so that he came to you with this decision OF HIS. This is how you are responding to him, with an uneducated response. Abstinence is the only way to not get AIDS...plenty of girls carry the AIDS virus as well. You should be teaching him safe sex, not who he should have sex with.
I have three boys of my own if one of them came up to me and said what your son did... I would hug him, tell him I love him and THANK him for trusting me. I'd prefer to find out from him instead of not hearing from him for years because he was afraid of my reaction. A reaction like yours. *shaking my head at this BS* I can't believe you.
2006-07-22 09:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Guided 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot "ungay" someone. Who need you to work on is yourself. Open your mind and learn to accept him for who he is. Lots of literature is available within the gay community to help parents accept this. I know it is difficult even if you think you have no prejudice against other gays but don't want it for your kids because it can bring such difficulties for the child. Your ability to make this a positive will help your son to be happy as well. Remember if your aim is to have a happy son, accept him the way he is and focus on all his positive traits, of which being gay is one. If you want a miserable unhappy and perhaps suicidal son (suicide rate is high among gay people though there is a significant number of them who never attempt it and this is directly related to the support they get from their families) don't accept the fact that he is gay and focus on getting him to change to heter. (Think: wouldn't this be like trying to change a heterosexual man to gay?) So if you really hate your son, continue to think the way you are thinking and try to ungay him.
A good example is Ellen Degeneras' Mom... check that out too besides resources for parents of gay children available within the extensive gay community
2006-07-22 09:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Greanwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but there is no way to make someone "Un-Gay"...it would be like trying to make you "Un-Straight". Homosexuality appears in all animal groups in nature. The best thing for you to do is love your son and accept him for who he is. He's still the same person he's always been, the only thing that has changed is that YOU (the parents) now know more about him. Good luck ...*hugs* ps get counseling or group counseling if you are having trouble accepting this. Sometimes it helps to talk to other parents going through the same thing.
2006-07-22 09:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Flyleaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality is not a "disease" that needs to be cured. Psychologists and doctors have been torturing gay people for hundreds of years trying to do this very thing. I understand if you would rather he be different, but there just has been nothing that can undo such character traits. Unconditional love from his paretns is what he needs most.
2006-07-22 09:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can"t make him "ungay" try accepting him for who he is, embrace the things that make him a unique individual, and love your son unconditionally. As for Aids safe sex practices may reduce the risk, and today's medications can extend the life of patients for many decades. LOVE YOUR SON AS HE IS!!!!!!!
2006-07-22 09:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It must be upsetting to find out your child is gay. There is nothing that you can do to change it, he had homosexual tendencies since birth. Accept him and love him. Him and his partner can practice safe sex, just like a hetrosexual couple, use condoms.
2006-07-22 09:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. Everybody knows that gene passes down from both parents so it's all your fault. If it weren't for you, he'd be normal. You and he are going to need lots of expensive therapy and perhaps a sex change.
2006-07-22 09:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by RoyMc77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no control. Its your son's choice and you should respect that. It is also your son's choice if he will engage to sodomy and acquire AIDS for no father or mother will suffer the sins of their children.... just read the bible... you may be just out of touch with HIM.. :)
2006-07-22 10:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Emo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick him in a military academy.
Make him live in a Latin American country where that open behavior is a big no-no.
Maybe also disown him. Kick him out of the house.
2006-07-22 09:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by 2007_Shelby_GT500 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make him ungay. As for AIDS, he can get that even if he's straight.
2006-07-22 09:09:02 · answer #11 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋