He says that he doesn't want to have a relationship with me anymore but still im's and text messages me. Do you think i need to just move on with my life or is there a chance that we may get married one day. Oh yeah he has a girlfriend now but still trys to keep in contact with me. He often wants to come and see me. What should i do?
2006-07-22 01:54:25 · 15 answers · asked by me0507 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let me tell you. I know from experience. I have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter from a relationship to wich I was 19 at the time and the man was 32. I found out that he was still married but gonna get a divorce, blah blah blah. Well here, he was abusive and controlling. I mean I like older men, but not all older men are all that good or mature. Look, it seems like he's moved on, and has a new girl, so there should be no reason you can't. Just be lucky you don't have a kid with him, like I do. Or else it would be harder for you to move on. But don't be scared to be alone for a while, it might actually be a good thing. And you can think about what kinda man you want in life and want to marry. But let him move on. And just tell him that your gonna move on as well. Or you can always lie and say you found another man, who you really care about. Then maybe he'll leave you alone, who knows for sure. LOL. Do what you gotta do that's all I can tell you kiddo. Good luck and may god be with you always.
Alissa, 23 Cleveland Ohio
2006-07-22 02:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋
You need to put him out of your life and pick someone closer to your age. Dating older guys may give you more satisfying sex and better trips but in the long run you will end up losing. Twenty years is a big difference in age. Guys that age that go after girls your age are just looking for people to use. They know You are easy to pleases and get rid of when they tire of you. If all you want is to have fun and no future than go ahead but if you want a real life with someone pick a guy that is younger.
2006-07-22 05:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got you on a merry-go-round and you don't know how to get off.
He doesn't want you - - -You think about leaving
Then He text and IM you -----You think you should stay maybe he really wants you
He has a girlfriend - - - You think about leaving again...surely you don't need to share a man...
He wants to come over sometimes - - Maybe he does want to be with me....
DO YOU SEE THE CYCYLE you are on? You are young and will learn he does not want you. You are there for only one reason.
What does he add to you in terms of happiness and your financial situation? What does he do for you?
Please right out your pros and cons....Don't even list sex...My gut feeling is if you eliminate sex you have nothing
2006-07-22 02:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by say it ain't so 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb hun. He is just trying to lead you on. Ever hear of, "You can't have your cake and eat it too." I am guessing he wants the cake and he wants to eat it. If he has a gf now, you need to tell him to leave you alone. You need to move on and find someone who wants to be with you. Don't sell yourself short waiting on someone who might not come around. I know it's tough, I've been through it myself. You are far to good for the likes of him though sweetie. Go find yourself a better man.
2006-07-22 01:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by christinajean18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man alone, he probably got a wife and kids. You are too young to be worrying about some 37 year old man. There are other men out there probably more your age.
2006-07-22 03:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut if off totally. Unfortunately a lot of men like to have their cake and eat it too. If you do not mind just being the mistress, stay in contact, but your best bet is to use your youth to find someone better.
2006-07-22 02:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not run earlier you are able to stroll. you have enjoyed the assumption of him for 2 years and till you spend greater time mutually, you will not understand in case you adore him for confident. If issues bypass properly the subsequent time he comes over, then tell human beings (alongside with your loved ones) which you're formally an merchandise. Your mum could be offended and picture which you're throwing your life away and hassle that he's nearer to her age than yours, yet while the affection is actual from the two factors, with any luck she would be in a position to work out and quickly quiet down approximately it. in case you lie approximately it, elope to long island and then show all, you are able to in simple terms tutor to them which you at the instant are not mature sufficient to make a sensible determination. supply them time to renowned you as a pair first and then in case you nonetheless desire to marry, it may be greater advantageous to have their blessing and the relaxing of installation it mutually. At 18, you're formally an person and might bypass to bypass to him in case you so desire, regardless of if it may be good if your boyfriend (as a kin chum) talks on your mothers and dads approximately how he feels so as that they understand you're the two severe. ultimate of success.
2017-01-03 06:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He has a girlfriend but still wants his occasional fling with you. He's using you. Don't answer his im's or texts, find a new friend. Good luck, I'm sure you'll find someone else.Don't let him control you with his lies.
2006-07-22 03:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by fdrsnail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. Aside from the age gap being tremendous, he is about old enough to be your father.
There may be no commonality between you and with him having another girlfriend, you will not get exclusivitity.
2006-07-22 02:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're broken up, you're broken up. Stop talking to him. Why would you want to marry him? He has broken up with you and is involved with someone else, but is keeping you around "just in case". You deserve better than that. YOU need to dump HIM.
2006-07-22 01:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by MEL T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋