this really might appear queer but is the centre of all the drama in my life just now. i have this best friend of 8 years and last week he proposed me. you would say that's romantic but what i don't understand is that how could he be into me when we are exact opposites. he's 6'3'' and a hunk and i'm 5'3'' and a plain jane. i do agree that we do share a great level of comfort and can confide in each other. to be honest it's an offer too good to resist but i really wanna know why me when he could practically be with any girl he wants to.
2006-07-22 01:26:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my friend, why are u confused? you're the one he chose! who told u that he wanted someone else better? he found in u what he wanted and he was lookin' for...what's your problem in that? i would be extremely happy and i wouldn't let my thoughts destroy my happiness...u re the one he loves so make sure that he really loves YOU! otherwise he wouldn't propose u! so just relax and enjoy! and have a little more confidence! u will make him love u more... don't doubt!! i hope everything comes as u wish!!
2006-07-22 01:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sometimes proposals come along when the least expected.
I do not see anything wrong in you being opposites - it is not the physical nature that counts, you will be communicating with an inner soul so the height and being hunk will not affect your relationship.
Stop and think a little bit - you may be very close friends, so he must know you more than you may think. He might have learnt to love you and now finds it difficult to part from you or live without you. Mind-you this is lovely and I am sure that if you ask him this he would agree and probably that he loves you alot.
2006-07-22 01:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are queer. u c u dont c what he sees. u c plain jane he sees so much more. i noticed girls judge themselves to hard. do u actually think he would propose to u if he didnt mean it. the comfort u talk about is called a bond. a bond of trust and respect and honesty. yes its an offer to good to resist. so tell me u didnt say no. if u did then u might have made a huge mistake. he likes u the person u r. stop wondering why and just be happy he chose u to spend his life with. he did this cuz he loves u and wants u to have his kid and be family. thats marriage and he see that with u. so go with it. good luck
2006-07-22 01:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your answer when he proposed?
Obviously you and this guy have a lot in common and he has fallen in love with you. If you're not ready for marriage then at least try dating him and see where that leads. It could be that he is the one for you and you shouldn't let him get away.
One of the best parts of any relationship is having a solid foundation built on trust, communication and friendship. You two have these things and I'm sure there's more to it as well. Go for it!
2006-07-22 01:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is great... and the reason is that you started out friends but he has fell in love with you.. and did you know that a man wants a woman that he can believe in and trust too.. and you say your plain jane and he is a hunk..beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and sounds like he is very happy with you...i am happy for you...and i think that you must be a very nice person but i think you should give your self more credit here.. he has been with you this long for a reason..and it is romantic and i wish you both the best in all you try and do....
2006-07-22 01:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he doesn't think you are plain Jane. Haven't you heard that opposites attract anyway don't be so down on yourself you sound like you are good for each other id go for it. Any way beauty is only skin deep and if you are beautiful on the inside than so is your outside
2006-07-22 02:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. He's in love with you. Be happy. I bet you aren't as plain as you think, but regardless, you've got a hunk! Enjoy it! He's been your friend for 8 years, so he's gotten to know you and he knows enough that he wants to marry you.
2006-07-22 01:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my god as a bloke id fall ova at wot u said . U got so much and u question is its 4 u . Do u really deserve the guy if u cant wholeheartdly say its great lets go
2006-07-22 01:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by howie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not think the same way as you, he might see himself as you do, I would appreciate myself more and worry about something else like what to wear the night of wedding, Red teddy with garters, unless he has another color, choose his favorite color. He sees what you dont and just be happy and live your life with him, and don't express to him what you have expressed here. Good luck.
2006-07-22 01:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beauty is in his eyes not yours, love strikes those who need to be loved, you have touched his inner soul, very few people ever find an inner soul mate that understands deeper issues than the outer appearances! you have hit the jackpot, now live life to its fullest!
2006-07-22 02:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋