If I know that my dad is cheating on my mom- should I tell her?

Answer 1

Only if you like seeing Dad every other weekend. turn his cheating into your new savings account..........weekly deposits into your account should buy your silence.........As long as he is good to you and your mom..........let him get his groove on.....just make sure he isn't gonna jump ship with his new squeeze. trust me divorce sucks.this will be better

Answer 2

Ouch Paul this question is real sensitive to throw out to the wolves. I, like many women would want to know if my man is cheating! Is there another adult in the family that you can talk to and really trust with this? Maybe the news to your mother would go easier if you have some proof, and another advocate in your corner. Are you sure that your mother does not already know? How old are you? Is he (your father) ever mean or abusive towards you or your mother? Are you afraid? This kind of thing is happening to a lot of people and families.

If you are old enough to defend yourself, tell her. Then go somewhere safe until the storm blows over! Chances are if you have proof of some kind, and she doesn't already know this, then it's going to be a replay of "The Perfect Storm" when she confronts your Dad about this. If you have another trusted adult with you who also knows this and has the same proof, then maybe you will not take the real hit when/if your mother starts raving about where she is getting her information. Do you see what I am suggesting here. Do not keep this secret, but also you should protect yourself from the fall out.

I am sorry. Good luck. This is pretty bad. If your father is or has ever been abusive or mean, this may set him off. So please do be careful with this matter, do not put you or your mother in a situation where either of you may be hurt! You need a hug, I wish I could give you a hug, and be more helpful. This may need to be handled carefully depending on your dad's personality, and your mother's emotions. PLEASE take care! I still think she should know about it.

Answer 3

Hon, I've been there. And it's the hardest thing on earth being the one that knows. You age a lot when you realize your parents are just as capable as you are of being dumb, selfish, and wrong.
This is a hard one to answer. I don't know your mom and dad. Is your father someone you can confront? I would recommend setting up a time to speak with him - coffee, a drive in the car. Let him know that you know. Tell him that you've been thinking about telling your mom. That may be enough for him to become guilty enough to end the affair. If not, then maybe he'll at least tell your mother. In all fairness, your mother may possibly know - a lot of women can tell. It's up to her how she wants to deal with it - difficult but true. You'll be in my thoughts - my parents split was an awful time in my life, and I pray that you'll be strong through it.

Answer 4

Yes, because there is a reason why your dad is cheating and your mother would be more upset if she found out that he own child was helping him hide it. You may not htink that but I've been were you have been. I no the pain your feeling and I chose to hide it and now I have guilt slowly building up in my stomache to the point were I cant even look at either of my parents. I dont think youll want that so tell her cause its better to live in the truth not a lie.

Answer 5

I would confront your dad about it first because he should be the one to tell her. But if he doesn't after a week or so, I'd tell your mom and also tell her you spoke with your dad about it and you thought he would have told her by now. You didn't say anything until now cause you didn't feel it was your place, but he is neglecting to do so(tell her about the cheating), so you felt you had to speak up.

Answer 6

If you are sure that your dad is cheating on your mom then she needs to know..............If you feel that you can't tell her yourself then you can write a letter to her. If you don't put a return address on it and you drop it off in a post office drop box no one (your mom nor your dad) will know that you told. The only thing with that is, your mom may not believe it coming from a letter, but she will believe it coming from you. No matter how your mom finds out she does need to know. It's not fair to her to live in a lie. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 7

How do you know? Have you seen him having sex with this other person? Or do you just suspect?

You are not the family police. If you tell your mother and you're wrong, you would end up the "bad guy" in all of this. If you tell your mother and you're right, and they end up divorced, you'll end up the "bad guy".

If you're absolutely 100% certain, then you need to have a private conversation with your father. You need to tell him what you know, and that while you have always loved and respected him, if he's cheating on his wife, you are very upset and disappointed. He'll have explanations or deny it or get angry at you..and you need to just tell him...I love you and you raised me to have respect for you and for mom..and yet, if you are cheating, you aren't showing her or your family that same respect.

And then let it go. He'll either be pissed at you or it'll make him think. (*shrug*) Other than that...they need to work out their own issues.

Answer 8

A long time ago I was in a relationship with a cheater. I didn't have the sense to leave him...until he took our daughter to the movies with his other woman. That knocked sense into me INSTANTANEOUSLY. I left that man because I could not stand for my daughter to be a part of their (him and the other woman) dirt, deceit, lies and immoral garbage. I called my sisters and you have never seen a house cleaned out that fast. I was out of there and 8 years later my daughter and I are so much better off. God blessed and restored us in more ways than we could even ask. He can do the same for you Paul. If your Momma knew, Love, the BURDEN you are bearing, she would feel so ashamed, not to be just cheated on, but because she loves you too much for your life to be sullied by something so evil and dark as infidelity and cheating. She is going to be very pissed but it will be the first day towards her healing and living a life of truth. I am so sorry you have to go through this. But yes, prepare to comfort her and cheer her up, but she should know, not only that her husband is cheating, but that you have been exposed to this. That would be important to her. Bless your heart. I pray for peace in your home baby.

Answer 9

What makes you think that she don't already know? She may and just be in denial. If you want, talk to you dad about what he is doing and see how he react when you tell him that you will tell mom. Really, it is something that is between the two of them and you should not be placed in the middle of their problems.

Answer 10

No, I would go to the pastor of my church and tell him what is going on so someone else would know and maybe of some help, If you did not want him to help then tell him that you wanted someone else to know and that you was going to tell your dad this," I know what is going on between you and her, I have told the pastor, and you need to tell Mom, I will tell her myself if you don't." By telling the pastor about this he can guide you or offer a better way. This is a serious situation and if you have a doubt about it then wait till you have seen more proof.

Answer 11

That's a tough one. If you tell her, it will destroy her. If you don't, that'll kill her, too. Could you talk to your dad first and tell him you know? Maybe tell him if he doesn't tell your mom, you'll tell. Give him the opportunity to fess up. That way you won't be telling on him, but it comes out. If you can't do that, then go with your gut. Can you tell her? How would she react? Weigh the odds and do the right thing. You know best how your family will react, since we don't know you personally. Good luck.