I bought a house a year ago for my child and I. Then my friend and husband and kid, want to move in with me, so they could save up money to by there own house. Then they wanted me to sell my house and buy a huge house with them. at frist i said yes, because it sound good at the time and i never even discussed with my boyfriend about it. which my boyfriend does not live with me, but will soon. well they ask him and he told me no. he wants to be able to come home and do whatever he wants without having to answer anyone. which that is understanble, well now my bestfriend who lives me hates me. she won't talk to me. and they are moving out this week. her and I have been good friends for over 15 years. she was there when i lost my child father and my father. and i feel torn about it. and i told her. and she doesn't care. i don't know what to do. I mean i love them but i also love my boyfriend and i am planing to be with him for the rest of my life. I am so upset about all this. am i wrong?
2006-07-22 01:22:03 · 7 answers · asked by kitty29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no ! everyone would be upset if he had to choose between the loyalty to their friend and the love to their boyfriend. just it is ok to have a good friend but living with her?? and her family do not seems like a very good idea! but thing about what do you want? if you wish to live with her do that and if you dont just tell her. if she does not understand well carry on. she would probably calm herself down as the time will pass. and if she doesnt she lose! it is your mether to answer!! do what you wish not what they say! if you need any more help you wirte me on my e-mail merry.fiser@yahoo.com ! good luck!
2006-07-22 01:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not if you truly love the man you are with.. i think it would be hard to see a friend of 15 years to leave though.. i wander why though that they can not try and get along...and i do not think that she could hate you after being friends for so long, but if she does she must not been that good of friend in the first place...i know it does hurt but just take one day at a time and i would follow my heart if i were you...i understand that he wants to come home and do what he wants without having to answer to anyone but i think that it is going to be hard for any two families to live together anyway..so i hope you and your boyfriend make a goal of it and i hope that he loves you very much for what you are doing...it is best to have your own home anyway...
2006-07-22 08:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its kool what kind of friend is she if she not hearing u and understanding that u want to have space for u and ur man. i think the only thing u did wrong was say yes to the big house but thats kool. things have changed and its ur house u bought that house. why get a bigger u want to be with ur man and have a family or jsut live together i get that completly. ur friend is wrong for being immature and not even trying listen to u. u said it u love them and u love ur bf. so they have each other so thewy have their money to move out which was the plan right. they took advantage of u and stayed way over. so yes ur bf is the one who will be there for u. so plan away a life with u and ur bf and ur kid in a house that u guys can have memories of u 3. let urfriend go and be immature if she ur friend she will get over it. u have the right to be upset. so do me a favor dont feel bad feel happy bout this.imagine him every night in ur arms and bonding with ur kid. good luck in ur life with him. oh yeah instead of being mad at u she should be thanking u for letting her and her man stay there. u r right not wrong ok.
2006-07-22 08:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't wrong. You and your boyfriend need your privacy and your friend should understand. I know this is tough, but stand firm. I know you've known her a long time, but this is silly. Buying a house with a friend is a major step. She needs to realize you are just starting a family, whereas she already has hers. If she's a true friend, she'll come around. If not, I'm sorry for your loss, but find someone new.
2006-07-22 08:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... why would it be wrong to want privacy... they lived in with you so they could save up money... not leach off of u every step of the way untill they can live on their own and kick u to the curb... be strong. if you do plan on being with your bf for the rest of your life... or even if u dont, u got your house and ur life in order... why change? seems like your really comforatble... why all the hastle with moving and stuff?
2006-07-22 08:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have right to have your life.
You have your best friend. And it's great. But even two sisters shouldn't live together if they have their husbands, children...
Have you watched Friends?
Monica asked Rachel to move out when she decided to live with Chandler.
2006-07-22 09:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by no one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a REALLY BADDDDD move to mix YOUR assets with ANYONE elses' . The whole thing of "sell your house and put your money into a joint house" smells to high heaven !!!!!!!!
2006-07-22 08:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by madamspinner2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋