lately i have been feeling really depressed and unsatisfied with life... i am 25 weeks pregnant and have had to defer my studies.
i feel like i accpeted the whole baby concept pretty well and am hoping to start studying by distance either next year or the one after. overall i have adjusted my life to accomadate the changes my pregnancy has brought about. my family have been great and everyone is offering to help out emotionally and $$$. i know that i am really lucky in that sense.
but i feel like my bf of almost 4 yrs isn't so excited. he never spends time with me anymore and i feel like he hates me. overall he is getting me anything i need and being nice etc so i don't know if i am just a bit hormonal. i just can't shake the feeling that he doesn't want to be with me and is only remaining out of obligation. it is really getting me down and i just want to know where i stand.
he spends his life on the computer and i feel like he'd much rather be on the pc than be with me.
2006-07-22 01:13:24 · 5 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just follow your heart, what it tells you.. and be sure your bf wants to be with you. The sooner it's solved the better it is
2006-07-22 01:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Owl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are likely being hormonal and that is likely making you demanding or whiney. He is avoiding that, not you.
Try not to be paranoid. He obviously loves you form what you say in your e-mail.
It sounds like he might be a little scared too. Maybe some gentle conversation where the two of you can explore those fears?
As for feeling like he is staying from a sense of obligation, tell him you know he loves you, but that you are feeling insecure right now. Tell him you love him and ask him how he really feels. Some men don't even realize how hurtful they have been. He may just not be thinking. They do that, they are guys.
Good luck with your new little someone to love.
2006-07-22 08:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just let people know how you feel. 9 times out of 10 its hormones. They make you think stupid things and feel crazy when really everything is fine and you're overwhelmed about nothing.
Just keep communication open between you and him, let him know you dont know if its just hormones, or true concerns, but either way, this moment you feel this way and you need his help.
If he didnt want to be with you he wouldnt be, you cant make someone do something they dont want to. There are many men who skip out on their pregnant girlfriends, its more common that not. Iam sure if he didnt want to be with you, he would join the crowd.
Just let your thoughts out, stay relaxed and focus on the good things. Your loving family, you baby's father who is putting in the much needed time, and you're perfect little baby, who had no choice in this whole endevor, yet is here to love and be loved just the same.
You'll be fine.
2006-07-22 08:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know how a person is felling is ask no matter what it is how big or small if you want to know ask.Just a thought it is not good to keep thing bottled up inside it will make you crazy.One more thought men get scared to about having a baby. so girl talk talk talk.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-22 08:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by sister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can suffer from depression when pregnant, and people may avoid you as not upbeat, seek help from doctor/nurse
2006-07-22 08:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋