Pls. Help !!!! Its quite serious!?

Question

i am 26 yrs. married since last 2.5 years. Borned in Rajput family, I got married to a Catholic. Ours is a purely Love Marriage without anybody's support. we live separate in rented house, work in Pvt. Firms & earn just for living. We both are matured & sencere & love each other very much. My problem is that my Hubby has a dream of having our own house in a city like Nagpur and too very soon (in coming 4 - 5 years) which I think is very difficult to get. but he is over ambitious. Now he can not think anything other than money for buying the house. All the time he is busy in thinking & doing the things by which he could get money. Nut not illegally. He is getting away from me. In this situation also, I always stand besided him but he does not take this into his notice. He is going away from me. I feel very alone. We have made around 80K in these two years still he is not happy. I have been restricted not to spend money on anything. I reall feel helpless as I can not help him as he wants

Answer 1

it is hard but he wants you to have a nice future. apperanltly those who look too much in the future lost their reality and presents so you have to talk to him. you tell him that you realy do wish and want that too but at this poin he just need to let go a little bit because you are feeling very bad. he also may have the over ambition sindrom of the emotional stress. you see if he is getting very nervous when he talks about it and is he changing his atitude and wite me on [e-mail].
talk to him and try to make him understand you because the situation may go worse!
good luck!

Answer 2

i feel very sorry for you. to have an own house is a dream in europe aswell,but only work and save the money for that is also not the right way. human must have some fun in life too. we need to forget our problems sometimes. have some outgoing,doesnt meens spending money somewere, but meet friends,make some jokes,
have a icecreme somewere.....
dont feel helpless, ask him how he think that you both can be happy. not only the thoughts and money for the house can make him happy,that cant be. thats not humanbe.
i wish you good luck(may the lottery) and that your husband thinks of you aswell. love from vienna- austria

Answer 3

money has a way of controlling weak-minded people. Make him realize that happiness comes from the heart and not the wallet or bank account. If he can not see this then there is absolutely no reason for you both to be miserable. All to often we let material things stand between us and the ones we love. So you need to make a decision......happiness or money.....I know you can not have both.

Answer 4

After you two have some quality time together, tell him you need to talk. Let him know how important he is to you, and how much it worries you that a new house is so important to him. Tell him you are afraid of how important it is.

At the same time, you need to understand that you are one of the reasons he wants that new house. He wants to provide the very best for you, and he might be disappointed if you don't appreciate it.

Answer 5

U r going through tough life..
Not spending money on any thing...
I think u both still not have had a baby .....
Well, as I think, Ur man is very ambitious for his own home.
which infact, is a nice thing.
In this scene, he wants that u both live a happy ever after life....
he wants to give u ur own home...
it is only for a short period of time dear....
After that u will rule ur house..

Answer 6

Honey, if you are making that money on your own and supporting your life in an apartment, he just doesn't have the right to control it. You save what you want and feel is right for you and dont give him access to your cash.
If he love you he is ok with that, otherwise he is about control and taking what you worked for.
I would reevaluate this relationship.

Answer 7

If i woulld you then i will still keep standing next to him and give more support. with your support in any decision or any thing he so. makes him feel good. that way he don't feel that he is by him self. As the time will go he will definitely come closure more and more to you. And he will also start noticing you. Hope your life will be back as you think

Answer 8

Dont worry dear there will be always a solution as a saying goes" when te goin gets tougher the tougher gets goin". Help him ur level best bcos he is better half of urs and one day either bfore or after his dreams he will realise his mistake and *** bac to you.... At these times u must act like his mom. I will pray for u dear dont lose hopes ma

Answer 9

My husband & I also work very hard to pay for our house, and we sometimes get frustrated, but we just think about how good it will be to relax and enjoy your OWN house.
You should tell him how you feel, and plan littlle dates for the 2 of you at least once a month to get quality time together

Answer 10

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