we have been together 20 years, he is sexuall on cam with men or women i have saw him or read his messages
2006-07-22 00:47:50 · 14 answers · asked by pocoe42 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He could be just doing it for fun because he knows that he will never meet them.
2006-07-22 00:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sadly, it's very common. I know from talking to over 1000 men in the last few months, and most of them are married, that many men do this. Some say they get no sex (and that is true in many, many marriages in these days of high-stress living). But mostly, they are bored...and stupid, and looking selfishly for sexual gratification without the "risk" of a non-cyber affair. Some of them get hooked on one cam girl (I don't know about the man-to-man part; these men speak to me because I am a woman, and they feel comfortable). They tell me about how they'd please a woman. 99% DO NOT HAVE A CLUE how to please a woman, so I listen and make an attempt to educate them a little. I think it's pretty much the same as cheating. It's called cultural lag, and it's actually cyber infidelity. Confront him. Do not let him squirm out of it. If you want to, you can give him another chance, but I believe he'll continue his perverted behavior. Personally, I'd rather be stuck with a creep who is seeing another woman in the flesh than an online sex-seeker. I wouldn't give him another chance, but you may want to seek counseling (that's why you confront him), and see if that will improve what is going on between the two of you. It can be an addiction, so make sure the therapist or counselor is well-versed in addictions and infidelity, and I'm sorry, but select a female therapist. The male one may also engage in online sex in his free time!
2006-07-22 07:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is acting out his inner desires on cam, he may be bi-curious and has no real intention of sleeping with men in real-time. When people cam, and I used to cam myself and I had no intention of sleeping with any of these people......
I say don't sweat it too much, he is just having fun, but if you notice that he's disappearing with no reasonable explanation, then I would investigate a bit more.
I know you are really troubled with his actions and there is nothing wrong with you telling him what you've discovered and talk it out.
2006-07-22 08:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew, well I have heard that many men go through a stage like this. You may want to talk to a therapist and get some clinical advice even though this is embarrassing.
2006-07-22 07:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you had not been satisfying his desires fully.Try to co operate and do as desired,you will also enjoy the game.You have not been able to read his mind in the last 20 years
2006-07-22 07:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes man need a sexual fantasy in their sex life, but maybe he bored playing sex with you, discuss it with your husband, asked him what the problem is. You've been with him for 20 years.. You should know him.
2006-07-22 07:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by cute-girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies? You hope?
2006-07-22 07:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know you saw him or read his messages.........and is it really a big deal...........you should be asking him not posting silly questions
2006-07-22 08:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to hear?
you need to figure out, what you want to do...
2006-07-22 07:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your man is not normal.
2006-07-22 07:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋