my husband left me and the kids about 3 weeks ago.. Hes telling me to sell the house so he can buy one for himself. Were not moving anywhere I said... I was at the bank yesterday and drove my marylous the coffee shop where he goes constantly. There I found him sitting inside with a really young girl... Hes 40 he laughed at me so I gave him the finger.... I havent said one word about it and refuse to answer his calls.. He abandoned me and the children.. I have a house 2 little girls 2 dogs and so on. The bum never sees his children. Hes off acting like a little kid, doing what he wants. While these kids are pushed to the side by him. He refuses to pay any bills, or give me money for the children.. He told me that I was a useless looser! Nice... Im so angry, but do not want to stoop to his level. I think he hitting midlife crisis my self. Iam younger than him by a coulple of years. He's moving backwards instead of moving forward. I think hes a coward for doing this..............
2006-07-21 23:51:19 · 26 answers · asked by carol s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, that's really a tough situation you're in, but you are not the first and certainly will not be the last. the outcome for you and your children depends entirely on what you do. it's difficult, but you need to earn some money in order to support the household while prince charming is messing with someone else's life. once he comes around, he'll start contributing (because the law says he has no choice). you can go to family court and request an emergency support hearing. that may frighten him into contributing faster. good luck to you and keep me posted.
2006-07-21 23:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually not all men are like that. The best thing for you to do, is take control over your own life. You are not even 40 yet. Life is just beginning for you. Sort everything out to become independant of him as much as possible. Give your children all the love they can get and perhaps in the future you will find a real man. The best thing to do is to ignore him and take charge of your own life. That will hurt him more, then you can ever imagine. Be polite and be civil to him, when you need to talk about divorcing and such. And don't be afraid to stand up for your rights. You will go trough many changes now, hurtful perhaps, but in the end for the best.
2006-07-21 23:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by battousaius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the snooping and what anyone else says, this is bad: And I caught him just 3 weeks ago text messaging a girl for sex so I am watching the phone bills now. I googled this number I found, and saw it was for a girl I know it's really hard to leave a relationship; it's painful. I don't understand why he's still lying to you implying that he wants to be with you when he's doing those things. I would gather all the strength that I could muster and leave him if I were you. Don't hurt yourself anymore by staying w/ this man who obviously doesn't want to be with you.
2016-03-27 02:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this. Sadly it is all too common as of late.
The same thing happened to a pastor here, my cousin and my sister in law in the past three years. I cannot imagin the pain, and anger that must come with this. Especially with children involved.
Please be comforted in the fact that this new relationship WILL NOT LAST. This young girl has simply stroked his male ego and one day sooner or later she will rip out his heart and he will be left alone and regretful. Keep your chin up and you are right, do not stoop to his level. Those beautiful girls are looking to you on what to do. May God bless you all in a mighty way and may God take the sting out of your hearts.
This too shall pass.
2006-07-22 00:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things dont happen all of a sudden.Have u ever looked back into ur marriage and evaluated ur relationship with him?Were u a good wife?Was he a sincere husband?Was ur relationship satisfying /happy?The way u have written about him and he saying about u raises serious questions.I guess respect was missing in ur marriage.Both of u just took eachother for granted.If things were bad earlier,they are bound to get worse.
2006-07-22 00:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you sold the house you would get most any way with having the children to look after by using a lawyer.so sell it and give him what he is owed less all the expenses it takes and will take to pay for up bringing of children and go buy another house for youself.OR.you dont wanna go anywhere,find his price to see if you buy off ,pay him out less any expenses incurred plus all that will be incurred for bringing up children seeing as he pays nothing and hopefully you can stay and he may not get a cent.
2006-07-22 00:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by draggingout9999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are in this situation, especially as you have children together. Some men are complete shits, but don't judge us all on your husbands actions. It will be hard for you at the moment, but time is a great healer. Be honest with your children and let them make their own minds up. I do feel what goes around, comes around and you will be rewarded later on in life.
2006-07-21 23:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by chrisnewcars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET LAWYER, take him for every thing you can get, take the girls and be born again into a new life,show him who the looser is,don't give into that weak excuse mid life crisis he is a adult knows what he wants sorry that you have to go through this, show him what this going to cost him,DO-NT TAKE HIM BACK for any reason,get angry in a different way through his wallet,
2006-07-22 00:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some say love, it is a river that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger, an endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower, and you it's only seed.
It's the heart, afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance.
It's the dream, afraid of waking, that never takes a chance.
It's the one, who won't be taken, who cannot seem to give.
And the soul, afraid of dying, that never learns to live.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2006-07-21 23:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am praying about your situation, and I know that you are feeling betrayed and used right now... I was too done this way except, when mines cheated.... she pushed me out the house ( emotionally & verbally).
I am not being funny when I ask this, but is he Depressed( mental sickness)?, because it sounds alot like my ex-wife...
You do need to proceed with a separation or divorce, because this is not a healthy situation for you and the children.
GOD BLESS.
2006-07-22 00:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋