2006-07-21 22:44:58 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Assuming this is for a dating kind of relationship. Love is a decision with some passion mixed in...love is a decision because love is a choice one makes to be there for a close individual but passion is the feeling one feels as he or she is with that special someone...so i guess in answer to your question it is more of a decision yes...
2006-07-24 07:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Love" is a word, based on each individuals "feelings." "Feelings" are not a"decision". Its a program that we sat up our self in the very early stage of life. Our emotions are based on experience not choice. What love means to you, does not necessarily mean the same thing to me, because of how we feel.. The saying "you can't control who you fall in love with". Is straight up! If love was a decision, then we could also control our feelings. We are walking such a fine line here, it might seem like a condradiction. But feelings control the love we emotionally have or physically seek. If love were a decison, who is deciding this feeling for us. Not necessarily would it be us, all the time. But you can bet your last dollar that feelings is still in control. My husband, "I love him", and I like him, and it was not a decision to love here, because when I met him I was already married to someone else that "I loved". The feeling I had for my second husband are far deeper than I had with my first husband. The way I felt, controlled my actions. There are degrees of love. What I am saying, everyone in the world would have a different answer for the meaning of love to them. So, its a word, connected to feelings, that the person must possess in order, to be loved by us. The "emotion" things falls right in here with what your definition of love is and what it makes you feel. If the meaning of love stir emotions, that is feeling based, not a choice. One last point, if love was a decision, then pre arranged marriages would still be going strong and we could all be living "happily ever after". But that is just a "fairey tale".
2006-07-21 23:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can it be a decision? If it was, people could decide to love someone and we would pick whoever we wanted to be in love with, and it so does not work like that! You FALL in love because its an emotion. If it was a decision, we could walk away from relationships in the blink of an eye, because we 'decided' we didn't want to love that person anymore. You cant decide not to be in love, it just happens! You must be quite a cold person if that's what you think.
2006-07-21 23:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a emotion, getting married is a decision
2006-07-21 22:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we cannot decide who we fall in love with. Life would be so much simpler if we could.
I love my husband but I fell 'in love' with someone else. Believe me it wasn't a choice I'd have made and I didn't go looking . The decision I have to make now is what to do about it.( for those who are interested I'll probably do the right thing for my head, but not necessarily for my heart)
2006-07-21 23:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can totally remove the emotional component, but the decision to commit to it, come what may, is the most important ingredient in a lasting love.
2006-07-21 22:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Arrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an emotion and it happens naturally. Decisions are taken at head and not at heart. I am sure love generates in heart.
2006-07-21 22:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Raju M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is an emotional response to a physical reaction to another human being brought on by a cerebral or purely visual impact. We do not have any control over whether we feel it or not but we can decide whether to ignore it or act upon it. However, at some time in our lives love will control and make fools of us all.
2006-07-21 22:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Valli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is understanding and shared dreams. Your organs/cells/molecules have a common purpose and dream- to keep you alive/existing. They know each others strengths, and communicate in complete understanind. Now bring that up to a human perspective. If you and your partner dug deep enough, both your dreams/hopes would become they same. Now with a new set of eyes, all the work that you would both be putting your energy towards would be benificial to the other. :)
2006-07-23 03:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Corey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love involves analysis and a decision on a subconscious level which leads to an emotive response.
2006-07-22 01:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dirk Wellington-Catt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋