This is one of the reasons I am not having it right now. I have friends 16-18 who have lost their virginity to guys who are dogs, who do nothing for them, and treat them horrible. After this happened, I noticed a complete change. They repeatedly let these guys cheat on them, they have low-self esteem, they turn into complete zombies. It's like they all have a certain way of thinking, they all seem to tell me this "it is okay if he cheats on me, all guys cheat, it is natural". BS. Well, what do I know, maybe it is natural, I highly doubt it though. Goodness, I am wondering if I should tell them how I FEEL, but you know they have a way of thinking "our relationship is perfect and she is jealous". Someone told me I am being less of a friend if I don't let them know they are in danger. I honestly feel that they KNOW. So people that have had sex with someone who you are not with now, has this happened to you? It's just weird that I am seeing this exact change in all of these females.
2006-07-21 22:13:10 · 6 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Sex should be an emotional thing. If its not then it has no meaning other than something to do like watching tv, amusment.
It is natural for male and female to be attracted to eachother, temptation is the amplification of a natural behavior. We are supposed to resist temptation because of the results you see now. In another generation (when your friends kids are adults) the emotional trauma and psych problems will cause terible things. People will say don't take it so serious its just sex, those are the people who are trying to take the emotion out of sex so that they can indulge thier lust, however the fact is we are emotional being to turn that off and to become numb will only lead to a person with the inability to deal with life and will have depression/anxiotiy and other problems. Simple answer sex in not a competion of numbers nor a pastime, if misused there is a harmful effect.
2006-07-21 22:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Roy W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They sound like they are in bad situations.
Wise men learn from the mistakes others.
You sound wise.
You can't always tell people the truth because they don't always like the truth.
They need some self confidence. Do they want another year of this?
If possible- let their parents know -not seeing the cause of their harm might do them some good. If you do let their parents know tell them with who--
It is hard to do the right thing but, do the right thing for you.
If they can't see you are being a good friend and they think you are jealous then maybe they aren't as good of friends as you thought- but keep in mind their situation is clouding thier judgments.
Watch the movie "come september" with Gina Lolabrodgida ... and Sandra Dee.
2006-07-21 22:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not sex, it's not love, it's not devotion - it's called an addictive relationship & it stems from low self esteem. It doesn't discriminate - all throughout time there have always and will always be girls with low self esteem who let guys like that in - it is just a fact of life. Sex just happens to be something that gives people a feeling of connection. Don't let yourself fall into the same pattern as those girls - do whatever it takes from becoming one of them.
2006-07-21 22:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by AudCand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I don't think that normal! Ive been with people and I would never stand for a man steping out on me. Yes, alot of men are dogs. And it seems this day 'n age they can do just about all they feel like to the women they "deflower" with no repercussion. I say tell your friends to kick 'em to the curb and move on. Just cause you lost it to someone doesnt mean you are forever their slave. Just my thought.
2006-07-21 22:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2006-07-21 23:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not love but being used . by there so called boyfriends and lack of ;morals] on there part. my opion?
2006-07-21 22:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋