what do i do? do i tell husband?
2006-07-21 21:45:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe if i kill myself now? i sure feel like it.
2006-07-21 22:30:29 · update #1
My husband and I have been married for 8 yrs.
I know from personal experience, he would want you to be honest. It will be the hardest thing for you, but it is possible to get through it. I went through this recently myself. I knew what a horrible mistake I had made and knew I had to tell my husband if there was ever going to be a chance for our relationship. I told him and I won't lie. He was very mean to me(verbally) . But you must realize he is hurt and betrayed beyond what you can imagine..(unless you have been there.) I told him it was up to him what happened, but I made sure he knew that I loved him and this was not his fault. It was my own stupid decision. I asked for another chance on his terms if he ever felt ready. All you can do is apologize and ask for forgiveness. If you are sincere and truely love him, prove it to him and never make such a stupid mistake again. In time it will get better and you can regain his trust. Just don't give up if he is worth it to you. I didn't and we are together still. We have fights like normal, but now I feel lucky to even have him to fight with. It's really too bad people take for granted what they got till it's gone. I was one of those idiots. I won't be again. Good luck and be strong.
2006-07-22 14:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by mamoore720 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really screwed up. I'd be looking for a lawyer. Your husband is going to be mad, both you and his best freind broke his trust. I don't know if I would tell him or not, you could be looking down the barrel of a shotgun.
And I wouldn't ever trust you again, he probably won't either.
And for sure you can't run to his best friend, it was most like a one night stand to him, maybe even a test set up by your husband. No real fixing that can be done. I'd hate to hear the names he will call you, which you might want to consider if they are true.
2006-07-21 22:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well tell your husband. I assume your relationship isn't very good, and that you might not even care about him at all. I could never imagine putting someone through something like that unless I really, truly WANTED to screw everything up and get divorced. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating with the bestfriend/sibling of your spouse is the number one no-no in a relationship/marriage, and we all know it.
2006-07-21 21:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by hikouki_leaves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no bestfriend.. Bestfriends don't do that.. I think you'll be committing suicide if you tell your husband.. In my opinion you better deny it but don't do it again please.... Sometimes the truth hurts more and scars the relationship. He will find it very hard to trust you in the future.
On the other hand, if your husband is understanding, you could try...
2006-07-21 21:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was a very disrespectful thing to do. Not only did you probably mess up your marriage you messed up the friendship between your husband and his best friend.
I would tell your husband. This secret will burn you later on if you don't and it will eat you up inside. I just hope he is a kind and strong enough man that will stand by you and work through this with you.
2006-07-21 22:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by CelestialSilverwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think thoroughly why u hv done it. R u not satisfied with yr husband? This is very wrong. If you feel guilty then keep mum and try to satisfy yr husband and yourself. Sex is not the answer for any thing. Faith and love is important. But in any case do not disclose it to your husband. No man can accept this. This will destroy yr married life. Take precaution and dont allow that person to meet you again. Stop It Immediately.
I KNOW FROM MYSELF THAT IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO FORGIVE.
2006-07-21 21:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're saying it like its okay to sleep jointly with your husbands perfect pal. extremely frankly ur husband benefits more effective. And if you're pregnant, properly, thats what you get for being careless. poor toddler - didnt deserve as start up in genuine looking that.
2016-11-25 01:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No easy solution here. Better get in before the best cheat does. I dont know who the greater wrong belongs to, the faithless wife or faithless friend. Who does the greater loyalty belong to ? Whichever one loves him the most should warn him about the other. If you are seriouse about him be prepared to work hard and long to clean up the mess of your labours, and be prepared to suffer with him, and even to lose him.
If you have learnt a lesson it can repair given time. Strike while the iron is hot. Please dont use this event to beat him with.
2006-07-22 06:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're screwed. Just fess up now and hope he forgives you. Put yourself in his shoes. You would rather hear it from him than someone else right?
2006-07-21 21:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by wisegal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better he hear it from you than someone else... hope it was worth destroying your marriage and your husbands friendship with his supposed "bestfriend"
2006-07-21 21:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋