i dont no whats wrong with me...?

Question

i was going out with this guy ryan. i met him on vaca. aand i was hanging out with him and his brother garret. garret was an amazing person. he was so nice and he was the kind of person that u feel like uve known them forever after like an hour. anyway we were hanging out and him and ryan got in a fight...i dont what about but they were screaming back and forth anf the garret said he was going on his boat (we were staying at the bay) so he did and got high and drunk while he was there too. and me and ryan were sitting on the shore watching him. and then garret had a seizure and fell out of the boat and died,
i dont no why but i cant get over it. it plays over and over in my head. i only dream about it. i cant eat. and when i do i throw up. i can eat maybe a sandwich a day. i cant sleep. i dont want to see a shrink or anything cuz i cant tell my parents cuz i dont talk to my dad. and if i do tell him he will most likely ground me for going out with out his permission. help.! please!!!

its been 3 weeks and only gotton worse

Answer 1

I was going to suggest talking to someone who is trained in this stuff, but that might be tricky in your case. If your dad really gives a crap about you, you might need to do this anyway just to get a grip on it so you're going to either have to convince him or find someone to talk to without your dad knowing about it.

If you're in school, there are counselors that can direct you. Ask friends who they suggest you talk to. I really think this might be troubling you too much to talk over with a friend; you should probably get professional counseling. I doubt it would be more than a few sessions at best. It's just a bit of a shock to your system and you're not sure how to deal with it. Get some help, and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

Sometimes life has ways of slapping you in the face with reality. When we are kids, we are shielded by fairytale lands and make believe. As we get older though, we see that life is alot different. It is a much uglier place.
Garret died and you have nothing to do with this. Unfortunately in life you may see some horrible things, but with out those...you would never appreciate or know what good is. So instead of seeing the bad side of it, take it as a eye opener. Start to enjoy your being, celebrate your life. Life ends when we least expect it so we must enjoy it to the fullest. I can only imagine the pain Ryan is going through as-well. I suggest you let him know too, that it was not his fault either.

Answer 3

So, let me get this straight, you did something without permission. You had something go terribly wrong. Now you do not want to face the consequences of your actions even though it might help you in the long run? Tell your parents, take the grounding, see if your family doctor can help. There are drugs that allow you to sleep and forget your dreams as soon as you have them. That is a place to start. Grow up a bit, tell your parents. It is for your mental good, and your physical well being also.

Answer 4

I had something similar to this happen to me when I was in high school one of my close friends had the same thing happen but they where not on drugs but well... I didn't see it but I heard about it the next day and it hurt me alot and omg exspecaily being at the funereal.

I still have dreams about him sometimes... but he's alive still and it's been years later. it's kinda weird, but I just always let it go...

It's really hard to deal with death and see it happen. You just have to go on with your own life though and be happy that you are alive...

Look around at everything that is around you your friends the sky the stars... Go to some nice places, See some movies. Just find things to do that take your mind away from what happen and with time you'll be able to deal with it better.

You are doing what is best though and that's talking it out of you...
Keep on doing that.

Much <3 I really hope that you feel better. =) (hug)

Answer 5

i imagine your answer is ideal on your question. you aren't from now on ingesting foodstuff, until eventually youre compelled? it truly is the reason you aren't from now on gaining. because you aren't from now on ingesting. Your body calls for all kinds of foodstuff to construct muscle OR fat. to attain any type of weight, it desires more effective than only sugar. As for the being thirsty section, drip some water on a pile of sugar (what you're saying you've been stuffing your self with) Then do it to, say, an entire plate of lasagna or different meat. known nutrition might want to take in water particularly, yet numerous nutrition already has quite some water in it. Sugar does no longer, and it is purely absorbing each and every of the water it truly is interior you, making you quite thirsty.

Answer 6

Find a close friend to share your feelings with...I know exactly how you feel. If it gets really bad, you will have to talk to a responsible adult and get further help. I started eating really badly after a while, and developed some horrible eating habits. Its no fun correcting them! I hope you feel better soon. :)

Answer 7

When did this happen, like a day ago etc. You should really go talk to someone. That is a very tramatic thing to see. Holding it in is going to do more damage then good.

Answer 8

if you tell your dad that you witnessed your friends death right before your eyes and even thought youll most likely get grounded
because you went out without his permission you really need him to talk to.... he'll listen
seems like your dad is #1 choice on ur list
what better to talk about things to the person you want to tell it to ????

Answer 9

experiences like that can hav effects on ppl...especially if som1 u care about dies... i couldnt eat or sleep for a week when my great grandfather died...but dont wry...im sure ull get over it..just dont think about it..or find som1 u really trust and talk to them about it

Answer 10

You'll be OK. Hang in there and let time heal you.