why won't he have sex with me?

Question

my husband and i haven't had sex in months. when i try to talk to him about it he says that he is too stressed. i have lost about 100 lbs. since we have been together and it seems the more weight i lost the less interested he was. any advise? he says that he is still attracked to me, but i can't tell.

Answer 1

1 ) he's having an affair.

2 ) maybe it upsets him you are starting to look attractive.

3 ) maybe he needs viagra !

4 ) if you do all the housework and he doesn't lift a finger
then you're in the role of being the cook.

if none of these , call his doctor and have him get a check up.


Good luck!

Answer 2

That's strange.. Men usually have sex at least twice a week.. I know of a couple who had sex only once in two to three months and later on the husband really had an affair. It was the wife who didn't want sex saying that she was too tired and had the kids to look after. You can't force him though... uhmmm... well... you can try to look sexy or give him a bath when he comes home from work or something.. Tell him that sex is one way to fight stress.. Maybe he's just having some problems at work but "months" is too long..

Answer 3

He may be intimidated by you now, since you lost all that weight.(congratulations) Is he overweight? If so, he may feel bad about being overweight now that you have lost weight.
He may just like larger women. Some men are like that.
Why don't you try something different --maybe a romantic night, with something a little kinky, don't tell him about it, just surprise him. (Whipped cream with sexy lingerie always works) Don't let him back out.
It might let him know that even though you have changed on the outside, you still feel the same for him. He just might need reassurance.
If that doesn't work, I would suggest counseling.

Answer 4

Did the sex just suddenly stop, or has it tapered off as you have lost weight? It sounds like the problem is his, and maybe he's freaking out about how hot your looking, and doesn't feel attractive enough for you any more.
Either way, just keep on moving forward. Your doing wonderful, and he probably just needs to adjust to having a super sexy wife.
I'd give him the benefit of doubt unless you have proof he's been unfaithful. Enjoy the new you!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

it is a time 2 use all ur skills 2 woo ur husband. no-one on this earth can get stressed or bored by sex. remember u r female and u hav all those things which every man think of. so go ahead. try 2 b more sexy and try 2 mould urself according 2 him. tes his mood on daily basis. wenever he looks in mood , go 4 it. even if he is luv with another lady, dont worry, hav faith in urself. and commit urserf 2 pull back ur husband frm her web.if she can do it, y cant u. best of luck

Answer 6

1) Some men like big Women!! The reasons are too many to get into!

2) He is having sex with someone else.

3) He simply can't get an erection and needs meds.

Don't settle for BS!!! Move on if you need to!!

Answer 7

Low sex drive due 2 work.Dont harp on it u will worsen the situation. Just be there 4 him. Be confident of yr looks.

Answer 8

You need to put your foot down and let him know that he can NOT keep you in the dark about this situation and you need to know whats going on because you are thinking he is seeing someone else and if that isn't true he needs to give you some explanation asap.

Answer 9

maybe he has a fat-chick fetish. or perhaps you lost so much weight it changed you (I know I'm a lot different now that I've lost 65 lbs.). who knows, sit down and have a serious conversation about it.

Answer 10

first of all don't beat you're self up over it, because there is something going on but it isn't your fault...mabe there is stress at work? there is so many things that could be going on......