I'm not even exaggerating. This lady has bad behavioral problems and my sister is following right after her. These are very angry, angry, people. My mother gets totally angry and just lashes out, I mean she goes crazy. There are way more other things than just her anger that concern me. This is the one who will never go to the doctor or any form of doctor. How do I tell her I really feel something is wrong with her and we need to go get it checked out? She is crazy.
2006-07-21 20:34:23 · 7 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
One of you said discuss with other family members, my dad, my half-brother, her cousin, have all made comments about her being crazy. And I know for sure my dad is scared of that woman
2006-07-21 22:01:58 · update #1
wow that is a really tough one...I thought I had something but ummm and she won't go to the doctor either? I think if it's anger I would just tell her cause lashing out in that fashion can actually get her hurt in public if she doesn't control it even there. Hmmm you could look up some information on anger management therapists or someone that specializes in anger control issues or get a book on anger from the library.. tell your mother you think she gets too angry sometimes and that you are concerned for her.. then give her the book and say maybe this will help a little. Anything at all would be a start really for an angry person and maybe she will decide on her own at some point that not only does she have a real anger problem but will want to go and get help. Worse case scenario is that getting that angry can affect her health in the long run the same way stress does. Hypertension, heart problems... you name it can be the end result. Your a great daughter to want to help her. I wish the best in locating the information that you need.
2006-07-21 20:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by kitkool 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow how hard of a situation is that. Your mom probably doesn't even realize she has a problem. There are alot of contributing factors to anger/confusion and acting out. I'm not sure how you can get her checked out other than just telling her straight out. Its important to say it in a way that is showing her you care. Maybe a little while after one of her episodes" mom, i need to talk to you, you really scared me earlier. Are you okay ? I'm so worried that your gonna have coronary when you get upset like that. I really wonder if you should see a doctor, maybe they can give you something to take the edge off." Since shes not willing to go to any doctor you've really got your work cut out for you. And how sad your sister is going the same way. LOL
2006-07-22 03:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by jannurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My initial would be answer - don't let her know.
But after having read your explaination, I don't know.
Let me see.... It's difficult for me to feel what you are going through because I had a most caring and doting Mum. She has passed on, but I still feel her presence.
Now to the business of the answer. One thing that is going for you is that you still care for her or else you wouldn't have posted this question unless you wanted just to add up the points.
I do not know the surrounding situation nor met your Mum to warrant a correct response and all I can venture is hypothetical.
In any case, as with any problem, is to break it down to its smallest portion; research, survey and execute what you deem the best course of action to be taken for that part under study. Next go to the next area and the next...., until you touch base.
Here're some areas you might study.
Health, environment, social connections or the lack of them, frustration that has manifested in something quite different and her religiousity - try rekindling - it helps.
Is she mobile?
How is your relationship with her? By this I mean seeing you through her eyes - a most difficult exercise.
But above all let her know you care and never give up. She's you Mum. The only one you'll ever have. The only one you're stuck with.
Te ducat cupiditas. Deo Volunte.
(Let passion be your guide. God willing)
2006-07-22 04:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bukit Tengah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, maybe discuss it with other family members that have seen her when she gets a little weird, and see what their opinions are, or maybe confide in one of her friends and ask them why they think she acts that way sometimes.
She may have an anger disorder.. I have worked with people who have been diagnosed with manic disorders ( Bi Polar), and it is a managable disorder, but she would have to recognize that she is having troubles first.
http://www.medicinenet.com/depression/article.htm
look through this website and see if any of this resembles what her habits are.
If you really believe she needs help, then ask other relatives to help you, and btw, this disorder can be shared in families, your sister may have it as well.
2006-07-22 03:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Craptacular Wonderment 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, avoid her. tell her why you are doing it. tell her what your concerns are and you'll be more than happy to spend time with her when she sees a doctor.
I avoid my mother 'til I can't anymore then I deal with her the best I can. She has talked to someone and just didn't like what they had to say
2006-07-22 04:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by crimsonwillow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that family as soon as possible.
Then, start your own family tree, one that has limbs.
2006-07-22 05:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Goethe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"mom, your f*cking nuts"
2006-07-22 03:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by N0LaNbPiMpIn985 F.O.B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋