Why do guys...?

Question

Only seem to like pink, girly type girls? Don't any guys find a girl that likes to rock, speak her mind and wear a lot of black sexy?
I'm a rocker, and my bf is not. He hates it. Should i change how i look for him or be true to myself and alone?

A little more info: We've been together for a long time and I love him to peices! He says that he loves me the way i am, my personality and the way i look. But it bothers him the way i dress. He doesnt want to go places with me because he feels people are stareing and judgeing me. (im used to it and dont care, but i dont want him to feel bad for it). Also his family (which plays a huge part) would never accept the way i dress.

Problem is, i've tried to dress his way and i feel like crap! Tight clothes and colours do NOT suit me at all! I love the way i dress and how i feel when i dress my way but i can't stand to see him upset about it.
The reason i'm asking is he recently admited that it bothers him, and that bothers me.

Thank you for your opinions! (^_^)

Answer 1

You should ask him what it is that bothers him about the way you dress and for the sake of being civil and having a lasting relationship compromise to some degree. The key to any good relationship is being able to compromise not to show how much of a hard *** you are. Just because you're a rocker doesn't mean you can't be "lady like" from time to time. I'm sure there are some things you don't totally agree with that he does. Tell him about them. And speaking your mind is one thing, but you should also have consideration for others. Arrogance is never too appealing. There is always going to be something about you that someone isn't going to like and it would be stupid to keep running from person to person in an attempt to find someone who is going to love everything about you. That's dream world. At some point you have to give. It doesn't mean you're not being true to yourself, it just means you're mature enough to see that some things aren't worth ruining a good relationship.

Answer 2

Always be true to your self!. Don't let a man or your peers influence your dress code or you! Be your self and if your B/F or BG/F's don't like the way you are find new friends!! your the only one who counts! Dress for you and you alone..If your a rocker and B/F isn't..Why are you with him?!.. He's dragging you down, If he hates it now he's trying to control you!... Be in control of your self But let him be his own man also... if you don't like what he does or he don't like what you do get out of this relationship....People are suppose to be the mirror image of each other not opposite.. Opposites attract is bullsh*t..You want and need someone who is on your side and you both like the same things for real, not just until your together, then he/she try's to control the other..
Same with Sex! never use sex to control your mate!!.. you have powers to do great things, not use some one and get what you want by using sex!! Don't prostitute your self to get what you want..Hard work and honesty is the best Way to earn what you want!!....."RC"

Answer 3

You shouldn't change yourself to please anyone and anyone who wants you to change for them probably doesn't really like you for who you are ..you wouldn't be able to wear pink and girly stuff forever either would you? so maybe you're only prolonging the break up and holding on to something that doesn't exist ...now being yourself and dressing the way you like doesn't mean you have to be alone it just means this one guy won't like it and he might leave it doesn't mean all the other millions of guys that are out there share his opinion ..wear what you want be who you are be confident whoever loves you will accept you just as you are

Answer 4

Do NOT change who you are!! He knew you were this way before he started seeing you. If he doesn't like how you are then he doesn't really care. Find yourself a nice rocker guy. Compatability is a key factor in any relationship. & if you change yourself for your boyfriend you aren't going to be happy & you'll end up resenting him.

Answer 5

read it carefully

i am a good guy and io am always right about girl's.
that's what the call me.

u be the way u r.

do not change ur self if he likes u then he wount say anything to.


because he had liked u the way u were
wearing ur favourate clothes

Answer 6

I think that he doesnt want any guys to look at you should attract to other guys. i love my bf a lot and for him i have changed a lot i have changed myself coz i dont want to loose him. and he is with me... if you really him you will or be as you are. you may get some other guy who will love you.. not how you dress up........

Answer 7

The best thing to do is be true to yourself. How did you guys end up together if he's not into how you are, does he want to change you? That's not respectful, rethink this relationship immediately unless you really truly love him and you hold him above your values, then wuss out and do it, I guess. glgl

Answer 8

Why do guys like girls who act like girls? The question answers itself.
Be anyway you want. But also be aware that the more you act like a guy the more limited your appeal is going to be as a romantic interest.

Answer 9

no, don't change yourself for him (well i wouldn't change myself for anyone), if he doesn't like the way you dress, than it means he's only looking at the superficial things. be your true self and don't worry, you won't be aone, you're bound to find someone who likes you for you...this is just my opinion, in no way do i want you to break up just because a stranger told you to :/...good luck :)

Answer 10

If your true to yourself you wont be alone long....you will find someone with similar likes. Also if he did not like it why Did he choose to be with you?At some point it was OK for you to be you.