How would you know If your ready for sex?

Answer 1

if you have to ask then you are not ready.

Answer 2

Here are some signposts to help you make the smart move in deciding whether first time sex is for you.

Knowing when the time feels right is a personal decision, whether you're in a relationship or up for something more casual.

So how can you be sure that you're ready? Whether you're a virgin, a die-hard romantic or a porn star, the most important thing is to be safe and feel happy with your situation. Admittedly there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sex and relationships, but there are ways that you can feel more confident about the choices you make.

You know what consent is all about

Sex is a choice. It is not a compulsory subject. Whoever you're with, it means any kind of sexual activity has to be a joint agreement - something you both consent to rather than something you are doing just because you feel you should.

You understand the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

Crucially, you've taken steps to protect yourself before sex becomes a reality. Get to grips with the different contraceptive methods available that guard against unplanned pregnancy. Just be aware that condoms are the only form of contraception that can stop pregnancy and sex infections.

You're cool about carrying condoms.

Whatever your outlook or experience of sex, even if you're still a virgin, it's always wise to be prepared. Nobody will assume you're expecting sex. If anything, having a condom at the ready simply shows respect for yourself and whoever you might strike lucky with.

You can talk about sex

Not just with your mates, but the person you're thinking of sleeping with. The closer you are to each other, the easier it is to talk openly. Don't duck out of the conversation if sex is on the cards with someone new - if anything, it makes that chat more pressing.

You can talk about feelings

Sex isn't just a physical act. A level of emotional intimacy and trust is involved whether you're in a long-term relationship or not. So be clear about your feelings and expectations, and negotiate boundaries. It won't guarantee that the sex will be mind-blowing, but it will minimise the chances of feeling let down and used later on.

You're happy to seek help and advice

There's no need to pretend you know it all, and if you're considering sex for the first time it's only natural to have questions. If those questions can't be addressed with your partner, put sex on hold and find out together. It's better to wait until you're ready, than to rush in and simply hope for the best.

Answer 3

The first time can be the worst time if you aren't really ready. Make sure you are before you do anything!

Difficulty: Average
Time Required: years
Here's How:
Know yourself - ask yourself if the situation "feels right" and if you really trust those feelings.
Know your would be partner - ask yourself how well you know the person you are thinking of being with and if you care for them and trust them.
Know your reasons - whatever your reason be sure it is worth giving something away that you will never get back.
Know how your parents feel about you having sex - you may need/want their support and confidence someday, make sure that you have it well in advance.
Know the risks - heart break, regret, pregnancy, STDs, and HIV (AIDS) can all happen the first time you have sex.
Know how to protect yourself - condoms with spermicide are the best protection for sexually active teens. The Pill only protects from pregnancy.
Know that there is no 100% protection against unwanted outcomes if you have sex, only abstinence can totally protect you.
Know the law - in many states you have to be a certain age before you can legally agree to have sex and there are some sex acts that are illegal.
Know what sex is - oral sex, anal sex, lying on top of each other naked and heavy petting are all sexual contact that can result in STDs or HIV (AIDS). Wear a condom!
Know there is NO going back - once you let go of your virginity it is gone forever! Make sure you are ready to say good bye to that part of yourself.
Tips:
If you have any second thoughts STOP immediately until you are completely sure.
If you can't say "penis", "vagina", "condom", or "intercourse" without laughing you probably aren't ready.
You can NOT get pregnant through oral or anal sex, but you can get STDs.
The age at which you are "allowed" to have sex is called the age of consent and is different depending on where you live and your sexual orientation.
Sex is not bad, dirty or wrong, but it is a BIG step to take. If you can't be mature about protecting yourself from risks, you shouldn't be "doing it".
What You Need:
A trusted partner.
A private place.
A condom.

Answer 4

There is a pretty standard answer that if you ask the question, then the answer is "no" but since you have probably already heard that, I'll throw in something that may be of more help. Sex is a wonderful special thing between two people who hopefully are fully committed to and love each other. The love part is perhaps the easiest to feel (though also perhaps the hardest to develop). The committed part is more difficult (there's a 50% divorce rate).

How can you tell that your boyfriend/girlfriend is committed? You can't, at least not until you hear the wedding official say, "you may kiss..." That doesn't mean plenty of people don't still have sex--I will say this, control is easy to lose and sometimes saying "no" won't help if it isn't stated early enough.

All of that said, an article similar to this was helpful for me when I was younger--http://www.focusonyourchild.com/develop/art1/A0000766.html (it is geared towards parents, but why not read what the adults all get to read anyway?)

Answer 5

what a loaded question.
personally i don't think you should have sex until marriage and here's why i think that. i want it to mean something more to me than 'well i THINK i like this guy enough' or 'all my friends are having sex, why shouldn't i?', 'he's hot, what could it hurt?' or 'it doesn't mean anything, i won't feel anything.'
to me my virginity is an extremely precious gift that i want only to give to one person and that's the man i will one day marry. there is more than just a physical connection that happens there is also an emtional one. and once you give up that first time you can never take it back. (no matter how much you want to)
sex isn't the casual thing the world has advertised it to be. it's precious and should be wasted because of lust, pier-pressure, fear of lossing that guy or girl, or any other reason you can come up with.
please listen, if your getting pressure from your boyfriend or girlfriend and you are so unsure you're going on line and ask complete stranger then that shows you aren't ready.
here's another thing if you go to that certian someone and tell them 'i'm not ready. i don't want to do this right now' and they don't respect that and just keep pushing and pushing you to have sex with them then they are not the one. because your true Beloved (the one you'll marry) with respect you enough to respect and honor your wishes.
so please take all i've said to heart, cause you really are asking a loaded question, whatever you do, what ever you choose (and remember it IS your choice) think, think THINK first! PLEASE!
*i will be praying for you*

Answer 6

If you do not know if you are ready then you are not. Wait until it is someone you love and trust. Do not just get it over with. You have your whole life for this. Make it a good memory not a traumatic tragic one. Make it with someone you love and have a romantic relationship you can look back on fondly not some horrible one night stand or someone who was inconsiderate. Not because you were too young and the guy was selfish and ignorant and hurt you physically and your feelings. Make it a good thing. You are a beautiful person. You have plenty of time. There is nothing wrong with waiting. Save it for the right time.

Answer 7

When you can see yourself laying down with a man (or woman for the guys), and not regret it then you know you are ready. If once you say,"am i sure i want to do this", then more then likely you are not ready.

Answer 8

I'd would know I was ready for sex if I had been married earlier that day and was in bed with my wife.

Answer 9

when you completely trust your partner and feel that you're both emotionally ready for any unwanted outcomes. when you know that your partners is the person for you and feel that he/she will be the person you will love forever even when you know that reality might come crashing down on the two of you but you don't care as long as you continue to have those feelings no matter how short the existence.

Answer 10

If you feel like... you want to have sex. I'd say it's quite obvious. As long as you get with someone who is as open as you are at your age (which I don't know).