i wana start singing my wife is a so close mind how can start tell about it to her?
2006-07-21 19:34:56 · 9 answers · asked by ped1671 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to her about it, tell her got to try atleast once in your life time. hubby and i have done 3somes 4somes as well, but dont do them with people you know, find other people, and get to know them.
2006-07-21 19:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want the sanctity of marriage why be married? I believe you took wedding vows as you atate you are married. The vows were promises to keep unto each other. To marry each other...why do you want to weaken the threads of your very life blood?
You are more than likely fantasizing and it is manifesting. take your thought provcess somehwere else. Like with your wife. Make her your fantasy. others may have done it and praise the glory of steeping out of the vows, or maybe they arent married in heart, I dont know I do know that if you are afraid to mention it to your wife that should signal you there that it isnt a mutual thing. You know your wife and from your leariness you pretty well know you will be divorced if you suggest it. Wghy even subject her to thoughts that you are wanting sex with other people? Is that fair? Seriously think about your wants and desires and then look at your wedding album and just sit and watch your wife for a few hours and then ask yorself what is more important.
2006-07-21 19:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, I have also fantasized about this. I am not even married yet though, so maybe I should try it? I dunno....I think you know your wife better than anyone on this site does. If you know it will hurt her feelings, then I would just forget it and stick to dreaming about it. If it's something you think she might consider then I would rent a movie about it or bring it up casually and get a feel for how she responds. You have to be true to yourself but you also have to remember you took a vow to be with only her. Once you bring this up and she hates the idea and hates you for asking...she will NEVER forget it and she wont let you forget it either.
2006-07-21 19:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her for a divorce....she is going to ask for one anyway. Beat her to it. Say good-bye to the kids since you will not have much influence in their lives now. She will not let you give them the bad example of swinging and so you will move out soon. Start packing and throwing stuff away to get ready to move, because you will still pay for the house and must also rent a cheap apartment. Once you ask ::::she will "hear" that you are not satisfied with your marriage and she is not going to forget it. You will need at once to go to counseling to try to save your marriage...without the swinging part.....which is what you have right now. Try to keep what you have? Go to counseling now, without asking about swinging. You loved her once. It can get better. Are you going into male menopause? Are you about 45? Feel your life options and chances to do a young, pretty girl for free are slipping away? It is fear. Swinging will not give you what you need to feel better..you may find rejection when you try ..and it will give you so many complications. You will end up all alone in your old age begging your ex-wife to come take care of you at least while you are taking the chemotherapy. Would she do it? If you think she would help you out like that after all the rejection you gave her, why not try to mend the marriage now. Tell her you need more sexual excitement and would she like to try with you? She may be bored also. How good are you in bed for her? Young girls need a lot of money , usually, to go with a married man. Real REAL SWINGING means your wife must sleep with another man so you can sleep with His wife. She is never going to agree. What you want is permission to sleep around..which is adultry. Do you really want to agree to let her sleep around also? If you do not agree, you are selfish. If you do agree, you do not love her at all and should just leave.
2006-07-21 20:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her, if she is still against it then you will have to decide what's more important to you? Your wife or swinging? Is loosing you wife worth a piece of azz?
2006-07-21 19:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be very hurt if my husband asked that of me. I don't want to be with a man who could share me.
2006-07-21 20:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough one, dude.
Try being open and honest about your "fantasy", then see how she reacts.
2006-07-21 19:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her frankly.
2006-07-21 19:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Dulshan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her. my opion?
2006-07-21 19:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋