it's easy to forgive not to forget but one thing i can sure TIME heals all wounds. Learn from this experience and move on.
2006-07-21 19:29:38 · 8 answers · asked by jass_o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll probably hate my replie but there is some serious truth in it.
Who the heck cares.
Cheating is easy, its 15 - 20 minutes from a lifetime, people will destroy everything for those 15 minutes and forget years upon years of hard work, dedication, love, kids - these could have proceeded with joy and perfection but 15 minutes of a mistake renders years of outstanding behavior worthless.
This ridiculous concept was devised by Western fuedilism to facilitate the destruction of the family, how many mistakes have you made in your lifetime, how many skeletons in your closet or are your perfect.
Is it right, no, he swore before God ( I presume) that he would be faithful so justice will be served, present him with an utimatum - how would you like to be alone again, how would you like to lose all you worked for and for what a little candy, or do you want to start over with whomever it is and will she have you, and if you failed with me what does she have that could make you succeed.
And forgiving, well do you remember that first love, and the second, third, fourth....well you can either join the dozens upon dozens of single women, career, alimony, cats who lost their temper and never forgot
Or wait till he gets older and his ding dong falls apart then he will FULLY know that life isn't just a coochee and becomes a real man who don't need to cheat on there wife cause his wife is an extension of his life beyond just a physical element.
2006-07-21 20:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Miken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not comprehend the way you post with it for 8 years? you've not forgiven him or you does no longer be so indignant. you've stayed with him through the worst. i'd imagine that that is getting extra proper. If it is not then go away. you'll under no circumstances overlook & you'll continuously have some anger yet possibly with cousling you ought to get previous it. supply your self a even as to heal also it will be sluggish so do not assume it to be lengthy gone suddenly. Take a million day at a time, infant steps, maximum of all don't experience responsible because you've hatered for him at situations, he's the a million who made you that way, he's likewise the a million that needs that can help you you get well from it.
2016-10-15 01:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man he is. Depends on the women you are. I personally forgave and never for got but after all the additional years i stayed and he tried to make up Lil things kept occurring. One day i left. Am i happier is the question.
2006-07-21 19:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rain S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is a issue that can't be forgiven. Infidelity is something that carries a large impact on your life. In time your wounds may hurt less, but scars never disappear.
2006-07-21 19:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by enveeus9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first husband cheated on me 22 years ago (among other horrible behaviour) and i forgave him when i divorced him but i will never forget. i don't think about it often, mostly only when someone mentions it, but the memory is still there.
2006-07-21 19:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a man . and i really know your feelings on this matter i had the same problem with now my .ex. wife . no you cant forget being done like that no matter how hard you try i know how you feel you can e_mail me if you would like my e_mail is the_silverfoxx@yahoo.com on this matter. ?
2006-07-21 19:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once he cheats he going to do it again, because you let him get away with it, and hes going to take advantage of it.
2006-07-21 19:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by brian w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater.....ALWAYS a cheater....
You can never fully regain trust that has been lost.
2006-07-21 19:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by LL Aloha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋