I have been in a relationship with a man for a year and I love him so much but I don't understand his sexual ways. He doesn't like oral on him or to me, he won't touch me there. He doesn't like to kiss, lick or anything else to my breast. I can suck,lick, play with him or whatever and he doesn't get hard but if he touches himself he gets aroused immediatly. His favorite position is me on my tummy and him laying on me from behind, no kissing its weird. I am a fit and people say beautiful woman and could get other men easily but I love him, I just don't understand. Also he masturbates every morning and every night and at work if he can find the time is this normal?? I don't know how long I can take this if I don't get some answers or advise, please help!
2006-07-21 19:27:44 · 20 answers · asked by Carol P 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have to agree with everyone else who is saying he is probably gay. It sounds like he is "trying" to be straight and not having much success with it. I don't mean to be cruel, but it sounds as if you would both be happier with new boyfriends!
In any case, his behavior is not normal and if you stay in this relationship you will be in a position (no pun intended!) of feeling constantly rejected. Whenever you do decide to move on, and you find a guy who makes you feel desireable, you'll wonder why you ever put up with this for so long! You deserve better!
2006-07-22 09:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not being funny but most men would be happy if a girl let them lick anywhere and kissing also is in voled some to.his favorite position is from the back but no grabbing or kissing.then he masturbates like 2-3 times a day.then he don't touch u but wants u to touch him.do u ever wonder that he might be on the other side?,not being funny at all.
2006-07-21 19:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I'm saying this, but it sounds as if he's gay. Certainly you're not doing it for him. Either that or he's got some other issue. This is not even remotely normal. I'm afraid that sooner or later you'll get so frustrated with this situation that you'll walk away. Part of sex is to please and be pleased and that's obviously not happening. You can truly love a person, but if you two are not compatible on an intimate level, it's unlikely that you have a lasting relationship.
2006-07-21 20:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get a real man ,, sounds to me like if he will not touch you in them places that i love to touch then you need to move on and find a man that will do the things you like and remember love is in the mind .. you have needs of the body get them trust me you will be doomed if you keep with this guy ,, he may not like lady's as well as you think ! and no he should not need to masturbate that much even if he is 15 year's old ..
2006-07-21 19:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by gb_strike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is gay or he has been masturbating for way to long. sit down and talk to him and ask him what sexual things he likes. hell it might work then again it might not. people who masturbate often have a hard time getting off with someone being there. he might have issues from the past like someone he knows made him do that to him self for their pleasure. never know till you ask questions. love can be a very tricky thing really look at your self and ask do i really deserve this or do i need to find someone who will love you the same way you love them sexually. just look deep inside and i hope you make the right choice.
2006-07-21 20:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by carrie2713 l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow interesting...if he's not willing to return the favor hon, something is wrong. I was sort of the same way with my ex, i found it hard telling her vaginal oder was a little to strong for me, but I did and she took care of it and everything was fine. what i'm gettng at is that you guys need to communicate with one another and find out why he is the way he is, that's the only way your going to know each other. you may not be doing things that arouse him, or you did at one time and did it wrong and he's just gone off the experience without telling you what you did wrong, again communication. to masterbate is completely normal, where ever your at, 10 or 15 times a day might be a little excessive though. ask him what he's thinking about when he masterbates, is it you? or someone else? for him to get himself off that much by himself and not that much with you, I would have to think he might be thinking or fantasizing about someone else?
2006-07-21 19:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he either has intimacy problems, he's cheating or he's gay. If he wont touch you there, he either doesnt like women parts, or he is trying not to cheat "with" you- in other words he has someone on the the side and doing things to you may make it seem that he really is cheating. I would bet money that one of my three ideas- is your man. Hope all goes well- and good luck.
2006-07-21 19:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by orcaspirits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's gay. I had a friend that was with this girl. She was the same way to him...Sex just wasn't the best for them. Well they aren't together anymore. She left him for another female. I tryed to tell him at the time but of course no..who wants to believe that?
2006-07-21 19:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by myopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound normal to me.Do you really love him enough to put up with such an unsatisfactory sex life for the duration. Sounds like he has more hang-ups than you want to deal with.
I'd find someone more appreciative .
2006-07-21 19:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are content with what you have, you need another man. He may need another man too, maybe he isn't turned on by women. Sorry, but you sound miserable also.........you already know something isn't right and you are waiting for what.........things to change? Perhaps you would be better friends than lovers.
2006-07-21 19:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by NerdWomanCool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋