Is SIX KIDs toO mANy? iM 27?

Question

what do people think about a 27 year old with six kids

Answer 1

its ok if you can be a good parent and can afford it. it doesnt matter how many

Answer 2

There are nearly 7,000,000,000 people on the face of the earth. Why would anyone have six kids? You're more than replacing yourself and your spouse. You're creating more competition for scarce resources.

It's said that "Children are the poor man's wealth" (Voltaire). I just have to wonder, being female and childfree which means I don't have any kids and never wanted them, why? Does this prove your masculinity or something? Do you just like kids? Why not adopt? Why not be a Big Brother? Why not mentor? There are many ways to be involved with and help children grow without hatching some of your own. That said, though, most people have a prejudice toward their own, and don't really care about other people's kids. And that says to me that parenting isn't about the child, it's about meeting the needs of the parent, mainly, first and foremost. It's a selfish thing.

All of those, though, are logical choices. Having kids goes way beyond logic to emotional need and want. On a more practical level, I don't see how you can support yourself and six kids, plus their mother (is she in the picture?). That would seem to take a lot of money. I have to wonder if you are saving for their college. Did you go to college? Is college the done thing where you come from? Are you blue-collar or white-collar? How much education have you had? Does your family value education? Does your family value following the usual life script? I'm fascinated.

I guess I've never really understood the desire for kids because it seems to be so negative. You're giving up sex, sleep, travel, and a good standard of living, to bring into the world these little helpless creatures that are more animal than human. They scream, piss, sh-it, vomit, and just lie there. They have to be taught how to be human, and there's no promise that they'll turn out to be productive citizens. It is a complete crapshoot that they will have good genes, and that they will have enough common sense to make it to adulthood, and that they will mature and be good people. In many ways, I would think parenting would be the ultimate lesson in letting go and not being attached to outcomes.

But, what do I know? I'm 38, a teacher, an introvert who loves my silence, quiet, peace and tranquility uninterrupted by screaming or noise or chaos. I like teaching kids, but I like even more sending them home to someone else, so I can go home to my husband and our cats, have some good sex, sleep for a while, do some art or read a book, then plan my next European vacation while checking my stocks. If you ever get a chance to do any of that, it might be in your 50s, assuming none of your kids have moved back in, or don't have some kind of genetic defect that make them your permanent houseguest for the rest of their natural lives.

Is it worth it? I guess if you're an extrovert or a people person, maybe so. I guess if you're just really into kids, and like people and don't have a huge desire for quiet, and don't particularly need fine art, music, literature or travel in your life, six kids might be a start at making a sports team of some sort. But who's to say that your kids will like sports? There are no guarantees with children. They have their own personalities, their own strengths and weaknesses, their own destinies and life paths and challenges in this life. There's no promise that a child will live in the same town or even on the same continent; there's no promise that a child will take care of its parent when the parent is old.

Call me cynical and jaded (because I am), but yeah, I think 6 kids is way too much for anyone with nearly seven BILLION of us on the planet. Please stop breeding and get a life of the mind. Thank you. I look forward to the day when we can go about the process of reproduction rationally -- it'd be much more reasonable for an entire extended family to get together and decide how many children should be born to the whole clan, and let only those who actually want to have the children. I'm convinced that just as there are childfree people like me, there are natural parents too. Then there are people who just stumble into parenting and do the best they can, or not. It'd be nice to see the issue of reproduction decided by clans/generations, not just individually.

And it really is, in 2006, the beginning of the 21st century, no longer a matter of deciding individually to have kids or just having as many kids as you can or want to have. WIth nearly seven BILLION people on the planet, it's time to ask, does the planet really need another child? Raising one child here in the USA is like raising two in Britain, three in Eastern Europe or 10 in India or the Third World. Raising an American child means raising a consumer -- a consumer of oil, gas, water, and natural resources.

Anyway, by all means love your children, don't abuse them, take care of them and provide for them. But don't tell them that they have to get married and they have to have children. It's a choice. You have to do what works for you, and what works for the planet. Just realize we can no longer afford to be cavalier about reproducing in the 21st century.

Cheers, K

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Six kids is too many for a 40yr old. lol. God!!! You are very fertile...lol. But I have to say, if you are doing...all power to you and good luck on a long life.

Answer 5

No that's not too many, but is it with one woman or many? That would be the issue, if you have them with many then women are going to look at you as a player who has a lot of baggage. If not then it wouldn't bother me.

Answer 6

Not enough information to give a sensible answer.
6 kids with the same mum?

Answer 7

i knew a guy your age with that many kids once. he was a single parent. if you can handle them and take full responsibility for them (financially, emotionally and every other way) then i don't think it's a big deal. if you can't then you should probably keep your pants on.

Answer 8

She must have a hell of a job and a good man otherwise she is just another woman waiting for child support and welfare checks.

Answer 9

Too many, but if you're a good dad it's okay. I'm expecting one in April.

Answer 10

that means you shagged at least 6 times

lucky