that if he wore his i would wear mine. I decided to secretly wait to see how long he would keep it on for cause he has the tendency to take it off after a couple of days, i told myself that if he kept it on for a week that i would wear mine. After just 3 days he took it off and now he says that it is just a lame excuse to not wear mine again, (the whole deal about me waiting to see ho long he would wear it before he would take it off and me wanting to wait a week)
so what do you guys think?
i know that it sounds childish but hey i am keeping ya'll entertained while helping you earn points!
2006-07-21 19:06:51 · 14 answers · asked by half insane 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husbands ring used to be big on him, but he got it sized and it fit better but he just decided to not put it back on after he got it sized many many years ago, and well mine has a nice diamond on it and it just get caught on everything. So one day about 5 or 6 years ago it snaged a dress on my way to a friends wedding where i was to participate and i just took it off and never put it back on. I mean everyone knows we are married adn we always speak of each other as my husband or my wife, but we just don't wear them!, but i am seriously gonna now consider on wearing it again
2006-07-22 07:27:36 · update #1
Actually I'm not entertained at all, but thanks for the points.
PS, yes it does sound childish!
2006-07-21 19:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by 321 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys do not relate to the deep emotions that women sometimes place on material objects, that is their way of affirming a feeling, event or memory.
Men can realte more to functionality, does that ring have a gps, can it play mps files, is it gold and growing in value etc...We try to relate to the emotional end of a womans perspective but really deep inside can't, or just don't get the same "high" as a woman gets from emotional attachments to material objects.
So he has the women I assume his dream girl, he loves her, he got a life and that ring hasn't got the value that you and all that you bring into his life represents, plus you sent him the signal that you also are satisfied with the other rewards of life with him so his natural instint is to avoid the needless responsibility of having that ring.
That or he is cheating (ugh...). Sorry I am blunt and honest.
2006-07-22 02:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Miken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a divorced man who scans a woman's face and body for any attractions, then I look to her finger to see if she's married. If she's not wearing a ring, I consider her fair game. My ex-wife and and I wore our rings for thirty years, and only removed them when we divorced. The rings are only symbolic, but their display may keep you and your husband from flirting or being hit upon. That should be very important to you both to keep temptations contained. Maybe you two want to be hit upon?
2006-07-22 02:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if it meant anything at all to him that you wear yours he would actually wear his for a week until you put yours on no sweat. He just doesn't want to wear his and is trying to find a way to put the blame on you as men often do. Why won't he wear it? Who is he trying to hide the fact that he is married from? I'd say you have bigger problems than this in your marriage.
2006-07-22 02:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u stop wearing your wedding ring in the first place? i don't understand. if i am fortunate to become engaged and married i would want to wear my rings always. Did your fingers outgrow your rings or what happened. I think you should get that ring back on yer finger or leave your husband because obviously you r just in a routine and not really in love anymore.
2006-07-22 02:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many men wear their wedding bands... you're just looking for an excuse to not wear yours....
thanks for the 2 points
2006-07-22 02:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem????Do you/he wear other types of jewelry or rings????I think you both need to wear them.I say you keep trying until you are both keeping them on indefinitely.My ex husband and I didn't wear ours either.HMMMM!Now,I am happily remarried and we BOTH wear our wedding rings,with pride,EVERYDAY!!!!Good luck.It may just be a habit that you need to fix!
2006-07-22 02:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing your married and living by it is in the heart, so if we're worried the other doesn't wear it because they'd cheat, that's not something we can control.
But I think it's important to wear our rings, we're showing the world we're married and proud of it. You need to find out the reasons why you both don't want to wear your rings, maybe your both fine with it, If you are then don't worry about it anymore
2006-07-22 02:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of testing your husband so that you can lord it over him when he fails the test, and give yourselves something to argue about, why not just wear your ring, if you want to, and see if he follows suit. Or don't wear it if you don't want to. I'm not sure I understand the game you are playing. Do you want to wear your ring or not?
2006-07-22 02:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a marriage if you can't commit to even wearing a small ring.
2006-07-22 02:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the real problem with wearing your rings?
If your hubby's job is a physical job then I understand, otherwise why not wear it??
2006-07-22 02:39:09 · answer #11 · answered by LL Aloha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋