From what she tells me, he and his wife are always at each others throats, and he has even moved out. I dont think that he will leave his wife for her per se, but i feel that he is just using her. She asks me for my opinion, but i do not want to hurt her feelings, but i do not want him to hurt her either. What should I do?
2006-07-21 19:05:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with her. Do I think he is using her? Yes, I most certainly do. Most often, men cheat just to fill the gap of what they are not getting at home and that is mostly sex. Even if he did leave his wife for her, what is to say he is not going to do the very same thing to her. I have seen these situations over and over and somebody always gets hurt and it is usually the third person. Tell your friend that you really care about her enough to be honest with her. If you are getting involved with a married man only heartbreak can come from of it whether he leaves his wife or not. Good luck with your friend!
2006-07-21 19:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by aftermidnite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend isn't too smart. 9 times out of 10 the guy does not leave the wife. Even if he does, a relationship based on an affair, adultry, is always doomed. So she has two big strikes against her and the guilt that she aided the distruction of a marriage. Why are you worried about hurting her feelings? Knock some sense into that dumb head of hers while you have the chance. If you are a real friend, you'd tell her the truth.
2006-07-22 02:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he will not leave his wife, but is that the real question? I thought the question should have been, is he loves your friend? I think he loves your friend. Ask me! I am a man in a same situation. I dont leave my wife and dont want to, but yes I love my lover more then any one on this plante and even she knows that. Hope your freind knows this or has this faith.
2006-07-22 02:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Raju M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what advice that you give her, she is always going to do what she thinks is best. The truth of the matter is that if her man felt that she was worth leaving his wife, he would have done it already. Unfortunately your friend is going to learn a hard lesson in life that is painful and hopefully she won't make the same mistake twice. Good Luck
2006-07-22 03:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by enveeus9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her to give the guy an ultimatum, something like " Well, I like you, but if you don't leave her and get with me, I am going to move on." That'll get him going in some direction. She also has to be firm with him. So many times women who are in affairs are really weak and don't have a lot of power. She needs to take some power for herself.
2006-07-22 02:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth, no he won't leave his wife for her and even if he does all she gets is an unfaithful liar anyway, besides relationships that start in infidelity fail something like 98% of the time. if they'll do it with you they'll do it TO you and does she really want to be on the receiving end of cheating?
2006-07-22 02:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun i know married men find it hard to let go, so even if he moved out he might still be at his wife's house all the time.
Honestly unless the guy is compeltely detached i would stay away!
2006-07-22 02:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by half insane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly your friend is playing with fire. How many men actually leave thier wives? She should have NEVER started a relationship with him in the first place. She is letting him have his cake and eat it too!!!
2006-07-22 02:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he'll cheat on his wife with your friend, what's going to stop him from cheating on your friend with another girl? Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-07-22 02:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her because he is just using. Nothing good comes from a stormy and vunerable situation.
2006-07-22 02:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋