2006-07-21 18:50:40 · 12 answers · asked by Shantil T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we do things wrong that we regret b/c sin exists in this world.
2006-07-21 18:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that most of the time when people make the mistakes they don't realize what they are doing at the time how badly it can hurt them or others and then they suffer with the regret the things they have said in harsh words that hurt the person they loved or done worse than that.. Your emotions and feelings come over your real thoughts a lot of the time with out taking the real time to think about it.. Yes you regret it at times, but there could be some good things that come out of the things you have done.. Like being in a relationship for an example thinking you are in love and have children at a young age and when it gets bad you have the regrets of ever getting involved but you have to look at you have beautiful children out of the mistake that you made. There is always a reason for things and for there outcome. You can regret for awhile but then you can look at it this way hey that was something that I learned from and it makes me more aware of things more so I wont make do the same things that I could regret later on in life.. Live life as you can and enjoy it and try not to regret the things you did be happy that there are days to come that can make things better for you.. Take care and hope I help you out..
2006-07-21 19:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by eyes/heartofgold&truefriend @}:- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say that only an extreme narcissist wouldn't regret anything...
There is a healthy level of shame and an unhealthy level... There are better things to do than beat yourself up, yet messing up and not owning up to it is also a problem.
"I drove drunk and hit some guy and killed him... but it was late and I honked... he shouldn't have been there." - Typical Deflection/Redirection BS just to avoid shame... Extreme obviously.
"Oh well, I guess I messed up... hehehe we all make mistakes..." - Slightly better, but still dismissive of how you affect others.
=Someone is late to their job, over and over and then gets fired after warnings.=
"They are picking on me! I only had two weeks left! I'm so pissed they did this to me! I'm a great worker, they are just out to get me!" - Obviously they were warned etc, and made poor choices, but they REFUSE to feel shame, or that it was their fault... so they get angry at someone else. Why regret loosing my job when I don't have to feel like a looser for being one... if I blast them!
Feeling some level of regret is normal... having a high enough self-esteem and a healthy outlook, and sense of responsibility should be enough to deal with things like this... But not everyone has/had the best role models. Not everyone is aware of others, not everyone is aware that they have developed a self defense mechanism to ensure they don't damage their very fragile self-esteem.
2006-07-21 19:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people make decisions without being willing to accept any consequences that may come down the pike.. If I'm making a decision to take care of myself and not others first then I'm probably doing the right thing. I read this thing once about this guy who borrowed his buddy's car.. Let's call them Mike and Joe. Mike had the car. Joe borrowed it before and returned it dented and lied and said he didn't do it. Joe asks Mike to borrow the car again and tells Mike that if he doesn't lend him the car that it will be all his fault that he gets evicted because he won't be able to get to the job interview for the job he'll need to get to pay his rent. Well.. here's my feeling about it. If Mike doesn't lend him the car he's gonna feel bad if Joe get's evicted and doesn't get a job.. And if Mike does let Joe use the car he's gonna fell bad because he's not taking care of himself and if Joe wrecks it then Mike won't be able to get to work and take care of his own bills. So either way Mike is gonna feel guilty. Which guilt is worse? The guilt from enabling someone or the guilt from taking care of yourself. I've learned that I can make any decisions I want to as long as I'm willing to accept the consequences (willing to pay the price). I usually take my time making decisions now.. looking at the pro's and con's and the possible consequences for my decisions.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-21 18:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ms_E_Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we're sure from the start. That's usually why I regret doing things. Sometimes we make quick decisions with very little thought of the outcome.
2006-07-21 18:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Timber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they are doing whatever...they really think they are doing the right thing or it is done out of anger and once they have had a chance to think about it they regret it..............Yes we should regret..otherwise you are saying that every rotten thing you have done to someone was right and it wasn't
2006-07-21 18:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't have to regret. What is over just let pass. Life is a game of sophiscated move
2006-07-21 18:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hubert s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To err is human.
Those who regret and apologise for their mistakes are great persons as they consider themselves human beings.
And to forgive is one of the finest virtue.
2006-07-21 19:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Believe it is just human nature.
2006-07-21 18:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Nonna2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't regret what you do , learn from your mistake
2006-07-21 19:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by bam_32473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋