What is your opinion on marriage at a young age? say 18 (or right after high school)?

Answer 1

Its NOT for everyone...it is very difficult to be married at a young age! Because I married at such a young age I knew that having kids right away was out of the question...

we waited nearly 9 years.

it is hard on a marriage to have children...but especially when you are young

Answer 2

I think it really depends on 4 factors...
1. Are you pregnant with this person's child, or do you all ready have a child with this person.
2. Are you ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life, exclusively, even if that means missing out on certain experiences you could have if you choose not to marry this person.
3. Do you see yourself as mature? Do others around you view you as mature? Do you and this person make mature financial decisions?
4. How long have you been with this person? If you've been together since freshmen year in high school, and you've had a mostly positive relationship, maybe marriage isn't a bad option for you. However, if you met a few months ago, and now you anxiously want to rush down the aisle, it might not be such a good idea.

If after much thought and consideration, you can honestly say yes to all of these factors (with the possible exception of the pregnancy factor,) then proceed with the marriage. If not, wait until you know for sure that is what you want.

Answer 3

That's a great question. I would say it depends on how long you two have been together, how close you are, how mature you are, and if both of you feel ready to get married as such a young age.

Here's a story for ya: I met my future husband when I was 16. We had a rocky dating history in high school, and things really didn't get serious until after we graduated. We were both young, immature, and marriage just wasn't right for us.

Now, we COULD have gotten married right after high school, and we probably would have made it work.

But I am 110% glad that we waited. The time allowed us to both mature, decide on our live's path, figure out our goals, and it gave us lots of time to get to know each other and get closer.

I would encourage you to wait. With the divorce rate at 50%, there is NO NEED to rush into a marriage!! Take some time, get some pre-marrital counseling, spend quality time together talking about your goals, future, needs, children, money habits, sex needs, family's background, how your parents raised you, what you liked/didn't like about your parent's marriage and raising children styles. I would consider taking some communication classes at a local community college, or buy a communication book for cheap online.

My BEST advice is for you to read Dr. Laura's "10 Stupid Things Woman do to Mess Up Their Lives" and "10 Things Men do to Mess Up Their Lives". I would then HIGHLY recommend her "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". Silly title, yeah; good book. It helped keep my young marriage together and strong!

I'd also consider what your families feel. You will be marrying not only him, but his family too. :) Good luck!! :)

Answer 4

It's a wonderful thing! I got married at 19, and i'm almost 20. My husband is 22, and is turnning 23. I'm happy, that i got married. I mean i've been wanting to for awhile. I'll never tell anyone not too. I mean are you ready to get married? Are you in love with this person? I mean can you sit here, and tell me that you would die for this person? You will still faithful to this person? If things get hard, that you won't leave your marriage? Answer, this question when it's just you to can you say, that he's the only guy in the world; that you'll need for the rest of your life? If all of these seem to be you, then yes you should get married. Don't listen to the haters, out there either! lol!

Answer 5

Marriage at a young age is a bad idea and the statistics prove it. I usually tell people to get through their 20's when they are really finding themselves and then if it's really right to marry. But people who are chomping at the bit to marry right after h.s. are needy, desperate and have to get a grip. You have many years to get married, if that is what you decide you really want. Young people fantasize about it, that it is something really great. It's a lot work and people change drastically from teens through their 20's. The person you'd marry at 18 would be very different by 28 and that is why marriage wouldn't work. We already have a 50% divorce rate and I believe it is because people go by the physical attraction, not what they really know about the person and that takes time.

Answer 6

Just wait. If you get married right after high school you will miss a lot of good things. Don't rush into marriage unless you know for a fact that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. A few of my friends got divorced after a year of being married. You can be with someone and get to know that person very well with time. Everyone changes with time, specially after high school. High school is just another stage in life, and know that there's still more phases in life. Just enjoy what life can bring you.

Answer 7

Crazy because I have been there and done that! I wouldn't suggest getting married until your older and are more mature.Life is too short and at 18 yrs old,your not ready to settle down and neither is he.Wait a while and if he is meant to be the one,he will still be there in 5 more yrs and so on.Wait!I got married when I was 19 and had two kids by the age of 21.I then got divorced by age 21 too.I am since happily remarried!!BUT at that young age I didn't know who I was nor did he know who he was and he still doesn't...lol.But seriously,wait and if he loves you,he'll still be here.Just date.

Answer 8

Take it from me...got married at 19.....and the answer is
NO....I'm still married, but boy did I miss out a a LOT!!

I often wonder how different my life would have been.

If your relationship is truly meant to be you will continue to be together. You will appreciate and love each other more at an older age.

Answer 9

if i were 18 the only reason i would get married is if i were pregnant. you are so young enjoy your life i waited until i was 27 and then the only reason i got married was because i was pregnant life is to short. you are not even old enough to drink you are going to miss out on your party years. my 18 year old niece is pregnant she is not very bright to begin with and her boyfriend is a gang banger who disappears on the weekends i tried talking to her it went in one ear and out the other . why would you want to be tied down at such a young age life doesnt even begin until you are in your 30s lots of luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Not a good idea. Give it a few years and if you are still in love, you will probably stay together for the rest of your lives. 18 is just too young to really know yourself or your fiancee.