ive been in a relationship for 2 years and have a beautiful one year old daughter but i feel the love i once had with this guy is differant. i also feel that he is the same way about me, but for some odd reason we are still together, uhappy fighting every other day. whats the best way for me to just leave. without hurting him hurting me or our daughter...
2006-07-21 18:36:34 · 5 answers · asked by okangeljenny23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would try couples therapy and try to work it out. You both decided to have a child and now it is both your responsibilities to try as hard as you can for the next 18 years and work it out. She should not be the victim of this. you need to really try to work it out before you decide to leave otherwise both of you are just being selfish. There is a child involved now. It is not about the 2 of you anymore.
2006-07-21 18:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by chill'n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t want to sound callous by any means but I want to point out the fact that your daughter is only one. If you do separate, I doubt it will affect her greatly right now. But, in later years, she’s going to become curious, want to know, and etc…
I hope you two can figure something out. I suggest writing down all the things you two have done together, everything he does that makes you feel alive, and everything you love about him and your relationship. Also, write down everything you get frustrated with. Compare them side by side.
But…if your heart is set on parting ways, there’s not exactly a “best” way to do it. There needs to be a whole lot of communication. Ask and answer questions. Don’t make decisions when you’re angry. You both need to understand what the other is thinking and feeling.
Think about. Write your feelings on paper. Talk about it with him. Sleep on it. You can't make this decision overnight.
2006-07-22 02:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by lana13_7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can I say this, belive it or not your daughter comes first, and our hearts last. It hurts I know but if he hurts you precious daughter how would you feel. Honestly there is help out there for you housing for you and your daughter and assistance to help you get on your feet. Do not stay with this man if you feel unhappy. Your life is a gift and he has no right to make it unconfortable. Pack up when he is not around and stay with a family or close friend you can trust. Good Luck
2006-07-22 01:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by nmbroker@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i so know how you are feeling. I kinda have the same thing going on. It's really hard to know what the rite thing to do is. I wish I had a good answer for you, but I don't know what to do my self. I feel for you girl. Good luck..
2006-07-22 01:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when 2 parents break up, it will always hurt the child.. and it sounds like you didnt get to know him long enough to tell how he really is inside, but its not too late to start now.. talk to him, tell him how you feel, things could still work out
hope you figure things out
2006-07-22 01:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋