help me please?

Question

ok my mom and my dad are not divorced yet but they are separated for more than a year already and my dad was supposedly cheating on my mom with this woman she once called me because she wanted to talk with my mom and she was very rude that was very little after my parents separated then i went to christmas vacation to my grandma and uncle house with my mom and my dad went to spend christmas with us and my mom got pregnant so when my mom found out we went to my grandmas house so we could all take care of my mom and my little brother after he was born we came back to our house which is in another place very far and my dad acted weird he knew a lot about baby stuff and he told us not to call his home because he dindt have a home number anymore he told us to call his cell but a week later after we came back and a little girl answered the phone my mom ask to talk with my dad and she asked my dad if he was living with this woman and he said yes and that they had a daughter which wasnt this

the girl who answered the phone that was her ''stepdaughter'' i was shocked and really mad at my dad and he came to my moms house that ninght to apologize then when he left i called his house again and i had a fight with the woman and she was very disrespectful and i was too but i forgive him after some weeks and went back to live to the house we lived when my parents were together because the person who was renting it didnt want it anymore, we were living in my moms apartment back then and she started calling us and insulting my mom and of course my mom got mad and insulted her too well then my dad said that my little brother wasnt his and once again i got really mad at my dad for saying that well time passes and i forgave my dad once again but then we just had minor fights because he sometimes say stuff about my mom and brother that i didnt like cause i love my brother like a son im 17 and hes 20 months so right now he is saying he wanna divorce my mom and marry that woman and he

says he cant afford us to live in this house but a friend of my dad and my moms told us he wants to live in this house with that woman, his stepdaughter, his daughter, and with this womans mother and brother cause they are living with them too because they are really poor, she didnt even finish high school because she got pregnant and she want my mom my brother and i to leave cause she really hates me so i think he is with my dad because of his money this woman used to work and right now she doesnt my dad has a bmw and she doesnt let him drive it because she wants to have it all the time and she is 17 years younger than my dad i dont know what to do cause i love my dad but i cant be the sweet girl i used to be i have to defend my mom and my brother because this woman dominates my dad

my halfsister is almost 2 years old and i dont know her ive never seen her in my life my little brother is almost 21 months i just dont like hating but i really dont like this woman at all and my dads relationship with me has changed a lot

i just need opinions and i havent told this to any of my friends

this woman is really mean

Answer 1

Don't listen to these negative people because some are so self ABSORBED with themselves to care and another thing girl who said it was a waste of your life don't read it or answer it if it's a waste some people have issues. Where is our society going with rude people I am taking my niece to etiquette school. Anyways for your dad to be able to afford other peoples children no offense but I would be offended as a daughter that is being a jerk and for the lady to not like you she is not your mom she needs to grow up and you dad needs to get guts and stand up for you he is your dad that's what dads are for. I would be hurt for my father to do that I would say well the next time you need something tough for you. Hopefully your mom can give you positive motivation PEOPLE YOU DIVORCE YOUR SPOUSE NOT YOUR KIDS. If it was a personal issue to someone else it would hurt just as bad I really don't think your an adult at 18 or 17 until you reach financial and emotional and physical maturity.

Answer 2

kick him in the nuts first of all. Their isn't really anything you can do this is your mom and dad's battle. if that cow begins to get involved rag on the fact that she is a very sick person and can't get a man her own age so she preys on older men. tell your dad that by being with this women he is disrespecting you and basically spitting in your face. tell him that he doesn't have to be with your mother but he shouldn't be with her because she is disrespectful to you and the wife reflects the husband so if she is disrespectful to you then he is too. tell him that he knows the child is his and that if he doesn't believe then he should get a test, you love him but that b*tch is gonna get hurt if she keeps talking $hit the way she is. You love him but you don't want anything to do with him if he is stays with her and that he must chose between his flesh, blood and the woman that he at least loved at one time or some wh0re that has ruined his life and has been like a poisin to you, him, her peers, and you family. I'm sorry if my words are a little harsh but she has absolutely no right to come in their and ruin all of those lives and I hate it when people are so disgusting and use and abuse a man like that. he is wrong but this woman sounds like someone needs to kick her @$$ hardcore.

Answer 3

They say we can choose our friends but we can't choose our family. You sound a bit immature for your age but then I am not in your position so please don't take offence. Why don't you now be the only mature person in this muddle and try to understand that both your mom and dad have issues that time may work out - love the ones you're with.

Answer 4

Oh my god, there's not a single period in that entire thing. I'm ashamed of being the same gender and age group as you.

Also, there isn't a question in that whole entire waste of my life.
So get over it and move on. You're nearly an adult, it's time you started acting like one. It's YOUR life, not ours, and only you can help yourself and those around you, not us.

Answer 5

I am sorry to hear that, but u must face it! d best thing you can do is accept your half sister and forgive your father for what he did... nowadays most men do what your father did. stop worrying too much it can't help, bad for your health sis. look for tomorrow not on the past... advice your mom to look for her own happiness and be strong.

Answer 6

I am sorry for you ..i will pray but wheres the quetion sorry i coulnt get that fair

Answer 7

it takes 10 minutes for reading this question.sorry i have to go