I don't get it?

Question

I've seen a lot of questions about sex, for teens. I'm 15 and still a virgin, plan on staying that way until marriage. But what I don't understand is why, teens think that sex is everything, and 'Oh I'm in love', when (including myself) they don't know the first thing about it..Why do we (teens ) have to be so ignorant!? Its not like I'm saying nobody can be in love, but way to people tend to always think they should have sex when they think/are they are in love?

.....*why, lol

I know, I know, the one great excuse HORMONES, but what about smarts? and whats it called? oh yeah SELF CONTROL..yeah okay..lol

Answer 1

You're right, teens can't be in love. I used to think they could when I was a teen, but I've grown up. I have a wife, kids, house payments, car payments, credit card payments, 40+ hour work weeks, full time college, and other things teens can't yet appreciate. Teens haven't yet had to deal with REAL problems between the person they choose to be with. They haven't yet had to argue about money, or the children. They haven't yet had to decide between food and rent. It is too easy for a teen to say, "OK, I'm done with him/her." And for teens, it should be.

Real love is a responsibility--to your significant other, and their quality of life. Sex with someone you really love is more than sex... it is a statement of your commitment to them. You are sharing something with them you choose not to share with anyone else. No one else is that important, no one else deserves such a gift from you.

Real love is choosing to continue that responsibility and commitment, even when it would be easier to say, "OK, I'm done." When teens grow up, like me, they see that the "love" they thought they were in wasn't even in the same category. It is like looking at your hair style from five years ago and asking, "What was I thinking?"

As a sweeping generality (I know it won't encompass everyone), male teens have sex to satisfy a craving they have had since they were 11 or 12, and female teens have sex to satisfy the boys they want to make happy. There is no love involved with any of that.

Answer 2

Ahhh...we were all there once. At some point in time, I think everyone thought they were going to marry their high school boyfriend. These people aren't being ignorant, it's just all they know. Until they become adults and realize what love really is, it's all they'll know about love. So let them think it...just try not to walk into them while they're making out in between classes. And also, not having sex is a great decision. Too many teens think that it's not a big deal.

Answer 3

Most of it is because of the T.V. from the commercials to movies. As far as why they want to have sex is because sometimes it's the pressure that one may lose their boy/girlfriend. And of course there is the hormones that rage at that age.I wouldn't say that teens are ignorant unless they have not been taught. As far as your deciding to stay a virgin until marriage, I'm proud of you. Love is something that comes after you get to know someone, otherwise it's just an infatuation.

Answer 4

There are two sides to love: one is the strong relationship that is developed between two people and the other is the passion and desire that leads to sexual activity. Both are necessary. Without the latter, there would be no procreation. I also think that there is a tremendous amout of trust that people need to have in each other in order to have sex (at least in a healthy relationship) and that this trust helps to solidify the bond between two people. I think people are mistaken to think that love is platonic or entirely sexual. The answer lies somewhere inbetween.

Answer 5

You are a ingenious girl! Keep it up! I even wonder why. You're not the only one. Yet again, I still give advice whether they are or aren't. I really can tell. In sex, some are ignorant. I really think you are the smartest girl in here. Finally, there is someone who thinks like an adult. Good to see that. Take care, girl.

Answer 6

Sex is really really really really fun. All this "new morality" crap is ridiculous. Enjoy exploring and learn what you like BEFORE you get married -- otherwise you end up with someone you're sexually incompatible with.

I was a teen in the good old days before AIDS and we screwed like bunnies. I got all the cheating and lying and jealousy out of the way and now I'm a nice, well rounded person.

Answer 7

Some teens feel that if they are in a relationship they have to have sex. Others are curious about what it's all about. Sometimes teens are pressured into physical activity.
I'm glad that you are firm and wanting to stay a virgin...it's easy to say when you aren't in a relationship.

Answer 8

You are a very smart young person and you are to be commended for taking a stand. You are 100% correct. Sex is not about "oh, I'm in love and he says he will always love me so it's ok if we 'do it'". Good for you!

Answer 9

i know exactly where you come from.... and i'm proud of you for being a virgin, and i am too!! and i'm 15 as well... i see girls who have had sex as girls who are insecure and don't know what they are getting themselves into... it saves a ton of trouble and they can save themselves for marriage and present the most beautiful gift to their husband...sometimes, i think girls feel more protected and as if they're wanted, but if you truly are a Christian, God wants you, so that's what they're missing... they're trying to fill an empty gap even though they aren't fill the gap.... that gap will be empty until they accept God into their hearts, and then most of them probably will become satisfied and not be looking for something to make them feel better.... i wish i knew that answer too, but that's the best i can give ya!!!

Answer 10

If you're 15, I congratulate you for the way you're thinking about sex, keep you though and your moral and you are in the right trask. It seen that you're coming from a very good family and that your mother had teach you a good moral.