Well a convo about kids came up with me & my bf again. I told him I wouldnt have kids until we stopped smoking cigarettes & pot (and drinking for him). he said "wait so u dont want to have kids with me unless i stop smoking? WHat that aint fair, we'll i dont know what to tell you but im not ever gonna quit"
Would you take that as he cares more about drugs then you ,your relationship, & future? or am i just over reacting and should stop worring about the hidden meaning bc we're still young. im 20 hes 18 -we've been together 2years in August....I jus dont see a point in wasting time & energy in to something that seems like aint true love from his side. or should i take him as he is even tho he couldnt take my love over smoke. Im not thinking of me in the future im thinking of the kids that will one day come if we stay together. Am i in any kind of wrong here?
2006-07-21 18:05:08 · 5 answers · asked by kearstinQ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he sounds real immature, but hold off on the children, sounds like you already have one.
2006-07-21 18:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 18(still a VERY immature age for males),he's still enjoying being stubborn and rebellious.Even for females,18 is a bit young to be talking about children and marriage.In fact,that's an almost surefire way to scare him off(whether he loves you or not!!)!He'd appreciate you more if you let him come around,and you'll get more out of parenthood with him....who wants a dad (or hubby for that matter)that's not ready to be one?When he's ready for raising kids,he'll be willing to pull out all the stops and jump thru all the loopholes to do so .
2006-07-22 01:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 18. He is way too young to think about kids and take all responsibilities that come with a family. (and remember that guys mature slower) You are young too.. but try to quit now your bad habits.. it is not as easy as you think it is. Good luck
2006-07-22 01:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by Eek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 18...and since guys mature slower than girls, that's like being 15...think about it.
2006-07-22 01:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he felt like you were trying to control him or that you were giving him an ultimatum, and so then he said something to piss you off.
2006-07-22 01:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋