What's the big deal about sex?

Question

Whether we do it or we don't, so much emphisis is put on it. I found it rather halarious that I used to read teen mags that talked about abstadence then when I was 17-18 I started reading cosmo and I was getting sex tips. I just don't know what the big deal is, either you do it or you don't.

Answer 1

Nothing really. Its a big deal when its with the one that you love. So wait. It gets better when you are more passionate about the person.

Answer 2

It really is something incredible when you are madly in love with the other person... also, there's little else besides drugs that cause one to feel as much as sex does (because of all the endorphins released during sex).

So it's talked about a lot and used to sell us things (cars, beer, almost anything really) because sex resonates so much with the human psyche, and on such a universal scale at that. Moreover, it's 100% certain that every single one of our ancestors had sex, which means that it is 100% a part of our species' history and evolutionary makeup.

Answer 3

The big deal about sex is that it can be very different depending on who you are and the situation. Sex can be very powerful, and it can be powerful in constructive ways and destructive ways.
Most of the abstinence propaganda is based on the fears of destructive sex; STDs, guilt, pregnancy, and regret. Most of these can be counteracted with the proper attitude and education, but programs to increase sexual awareness are being stifled for the fear that they will increase sexual activity in the young (although, at we have consistently seen, sex education consistently decreases teen pregnancy and other unsavory aspects).
Many people believe that sexual relations should be confined to one person, preferably after marriage. This view has a lot of baggage; it is a relic from an age where women were treated as inferior and unable to deal with thier own sexuality (therefore needing a man to take control). Today, women (and sometimes men) who choose to remain abstinent will state that they want to have the kind of connection with thier life partner that involves dedicated, monogamous sex. Some girls want to give their virginity as a "present" (a loss for female empowerment, don't you find?). Religious reasons for abstinence (typically for women only) are just that, religious reasons, and they too are a relic of patriarchal treatment of women from days of yore.
Finally, the cult of the virgin is still very very strong in todays culture; it is considered a virtue to be a virgin (I can't really fathom why, it's laughable to call inexperience virtuous).
The other side of the matter is that complete sexual freedom can lead to abuse of sex as a social tool for manipulation, but people who do such things are psychologically unhealthy to begin with; sex didn't "ruin" them.
Sex remains one of the most amazing biological and psychological activities available to people. Use it wisely, use it well, but above all, use it.

Answer 4

Well sex is about sharing with another person on a whole new level. When you start a relationship, you share your feelings and thoughts with the person you are dating. But when you have sex with them, you are sharing your body (aka your entire physical being). It's a big step because it has dire consequences if you don't take precations, and you can be left feeling empty if you do it too soon or with the wrong person. So although it seems like another thing to do to pass the time, it's saying something about yourself and how confortable you are with your body.

Answer 5

Sex may be human nature if you'd like to call it that, but also is the need to be protected from the environment and jealousy. Abstinence is just a way to protect one's self from the environment, and promisuity could cause harm in a relationship or jealousy - couldn't it?
To each his own, but don't knock abstinence, it has it's purpose too.

Answer 6

I relate to your question, and have wondered this myself. It doesn't seem like so much emphasis should be placed on something that seems relatively inconsequential besides for purposes of having children.

However, if you have no interest in sex, you may have a hormonal imbalance. It's something they can find out with a blood test, so there's an objective test to see if you have it.

Answer 7

People over emphasize it, nowadays. Sex should be special with the one you love and intend to be with the rest of your life.

You should do it after marriage, not just for the reasons I stated above but because if you save yourself, you won't have the risk of unwanted pregnancies or STD's.

Answer 8

Some people do it because of the pressure. Do it when you are ready not because others think it is time. Sex is definately not like the latest trend. But it is tossed around like that a lot.

Answer 9

It's funny that the sex thing, which causes the most consternation and concern for the single person is the least important thing after the marriage!

Answer 10

it isn't a big deal. when it comes to sex make smart decisions. always protect yourself no matter what. if you dont you can get pregnant and disease. if sex doesn't appeal to you than its not a big deal. there are better things to think about like school.having the ability to live without struggle is what you should be thinking about.