My wife betrayed me by falling in love with someone else. But I wish to keep our family together. Can I ever really trust her again?
2006-07-21 18:00:40 · 14 answers · asked by mustang_gotee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. I think that a woman is much less likely to cheat again than a man is. That in itself should make things easier.
However, I think that it is more difficult for a man to forgive infidelity than it is for a woman.
It will take a lot of work and communication for you to work through this as a couple. Also, both of you have to want to work through it. She has to realize her mistake and she has to feel true remorse for it.
If this was a situation where she came to you and admitted the affair, then I would say that she is truly sorry and she will never even think of cheating again. She would not have confessed if the guilt had not been eating away at her and she would not have confessed if she did not love you deeply.
If you found out about the affair some other way, it is likely that she may not be trustworthy in the future. It's hard to say. The shock of being caught might have been enough to keep her from cheating again. It might be that she has no remorse and will either end your marriage now or continue cheating.
Either way, it's her burden to prove to you that she can be trusted again. Many other couples have done it, but it will be a long road.
2006-07-21 18:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The honest answer to this question is something you do not want to hear. But you will never be able to trust her again. You will always wonder what she is doing what she is thinking and all that. But i applaud you for wanting to keep your family together! I wish you the best because I'm going threw a situation something like that. But follow your heart! And do not be afraid if you lead you away from your wife. : )
2006-07-21 18:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by smiles18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her again because you gave her your everything and yet she still gave her love to another man. You could keep your family together, but it will cost you. You might not be happy with her, and, you may have images of her with her and the other man in your head at times, but this is only if you stay with her and really don't want to. Of course, you could always leave her and move on. You don't have to put up with that. You just have to make the right decision.
2006-07-21 18:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she fill sorry about the thing she has don? if so that is a good thing.somethimes in relationships this thing hapens cause one of them forgot how they felt when they start havin sombody in there life and after somethime they let themselves to be tampted to start a relashionship with another person and they think they are in love but most of them are not they are just infatuated. So specialy if u have a family its good for all family memeber if u give her onother aportunity and forgive her from u'r heart this will help you to learn how to trust her again.
2006-07-21 19:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by mega 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My frame of thinking is the same way!! I say he needs to help you get over this; what if he stepped it up on being a husband and shows you that he’s committed to only you!!! Then perhaps those ugly thoughts would go away. When is the last time he sent you flowers or did something extra special for you when you never expected it? Why did he enter in that “emotional” affair anyhow? What was his excuse? When did he have the time to do that?
2016-03-27 02:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep your family together without being together with your wife. She betrayed you and that enough reason for you to keep yourself away from her, but keep in touch with your family (children). By law you are the father and you have the right to keep in touch with them as long you are providing them.
2006-07-21 18:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With lots of help and counseling, MAYBE. But there will always be that doubt in the back of your head. Everytime she goes out with her friends, or shopping, or to the gym, or to work overtime.....you get my point. It can be very emotionally draining. I would say that if she can fall in love with someone else, she can't be trusted.
2006-07-21 18:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt advise trusting her with your emotions again,you should DEFINETLY get a divorce.........but it will be beneficial to the kids nd a good example for them if you learn to get along with her andtry to stay personable.It wont be a good example ifyou stay 'cause it's sending he message that you have no respect for yourself.
2006-07-21 18:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You BOTH really need to WANT to reconcile and then go over all the steps to rebuilding trust laid out by a good COUNSELOR.
it can be done...
2006-07-21 18:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once they do it once they will do it again let her go and start a new life with someone else
2006-07-21 18:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Faviola M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋