I have tryed it all!!! It does not work. I am out going.. love to meet new people. Very spontaneous...he is killing me he is the total oppisite. I have tryed it all counseling, reverse psychology nothing works... been together for 13 years..have 4 children together...HELP... oh and there is no way I want to trade him in.
2006-07-21 18:00:36 · 20 answers · asked by violet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't change anyone..just accept it and enjoy him..there is nothing wrong with married couples having different interests.. so let him be a homebody or whatever he is and you go out and meet people have fun with your friends.. why don't you bring your friends home for get togethers sometimes so hubby can be included.. you could be spontanious in the bedroom, im sure he'd like that..he might like it enough to take on the lead sometimes ...LOL My bf of one yr is a bit like your hubby and im a bit like you,, i thought about ending it before it got too serious, because of those reasons but his other good parts certainly outweigh his lack of adventure... Can't have the perfect parnter you know..lol no two people are the same.. also have u ever taken an intersts in his interests??
2006-07-21 18:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well when you went to the lot to pick him out you should have known what you was getting. Yet you still waisted 13 years trying to turn a Pinto into a Corvette. Why spend time changing the guy you picked when that time could be better spent LOVING him. If he hasn't changed that tells me hes still the same guy you fell in Love with So LOVE HIM.
2006-07-22 01:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years says He really loves you!
If he didn't, he would have left a long time ago.
He just doesn't know how to tell you he loves you.
A man has to learn "How to tell the wife that I love her". It takes a man to teach another man the beginning basics. Then after you can take on the role of assistance.
A man understands better coming from a mans point of view. Try a marriage conference sponsored by "Family Life".
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2006-07-22 01:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trade him in after 13 years You are strong. Girl Get on with your life.
2006-07-22 01:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by curiousgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you, but if you married this man the way he is, he probably will not change. No person can control another persons feelings, I think you might look at yourself. Have done the changing? Be careful you might be looking for happiness in all the wrong places.
2006-07-22 01:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mojo is right,do your stuff,you have tried your best!
You are the type that likes to travel,meet new people,see new places,do new things.
He won't even git off the couch to go bowling,I give up!
2006-07-22 01:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you had better learn to live life without him remember you are a separate human being with needs and wants so learn to have fun and pursue your own hobbies you can still love a stick in the mud.
2006-07-22 01:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
want to change your husband? Don't we all, honey, don't we all....... I heard once that you can't change others, you can only change yourself. You just need to change the way you think, or work something out with him so you can be yourself without harming the marriage.
2006-07-22 01:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a little spankin' on the side. Always cures those hubby blues.
2006-07-22 01:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by jaredshouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love him and he love's you but everything you do seem's to not be working and of course you do need happyness in your life as we'll so the only other thing to do is to let it go and walk away and hope for the best
2006-07-22 01:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by mrquietstorm2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋